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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:“Jack” and I have been dating for over two years. He’s my first. He’s intelligent, hard working, witty, and full of integrity. His knowledge surpasses mine, but we mesh well as a couple, filling in for what the other more or less “lacks”. We see each other on weekends, and our disagreements are few and far between.Every time I’m with Jack I change into a better /different version of myself. When I’m away from him, I look back on how I acted and question “Is that who I really am? I was acting extra nice, and it came naturally! Or is it still butterflies?”Look, I’m nice person in general. But with him I “transform”. I get extra girly. I let him make the decisions (and I’m okay with it!). I’m more of a lady, and yet, more amorous with him. I also become extra EXTRA responsible for pleasing him and his needs. Will the transformation just “stick” in my personality all the time one day? It almost feels wrong to have two of myself. Which is the real me? Or does having a partner whom you really love, and who really loves you back, affect significant change in your personality? Or is it still butterflies? Honeymoon phase maybe?I think of him fondly, but not obsessively. We’re comfortable enough that we know we’re here for each other. We have no need to be attached at the hip. Deep down, being with him motivates me to be a better person. Your thoughts on this please, Aunts and Uncles, would be greatly appreciated. Well, only if you can make sense of this mess, anyhow. Reply to this Question
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 This sounds great and awesomeness galore!
The only thing I'd say on the down side is be careful that you are not addicted to him and need a BF fix.
Other than that enjoy the ride!
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