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writes: i wrote a while back and this is an update, but with a further question.i have been back in touch with an old flame for 10 months. he has another girlfrind of one year but is not in love with her and sees no fruture with her.i still like him and want to prussue my intrest, i told him as much in a long winded way. and got a metophor in responce:"life is like a watermill, sometimes it flows fast, sometimes slow, other times it pulls through the rubbish and sometimes it stops compleatly, but it is continuious and reflects the phases of life."what the hell does it mean? it's hardly what one wants to hear when one has just taken a risk by admitting that they wish it would be possible to exploure what would have been had we not gone our own ways and if he didnt have a girlfriend.we see each other once a month and enjoy each others company over a few drinks, we have a good laugh. my intuition is telling me he's the one i want... but is that what hes telling me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust want to say thanx for the g8 advice and beautiful metephor!
i would also like to gain sum further clarity and wisdom from you...
i would like to be honest and tell 'him' how i feel but, i am worried abuot doing so; it has been a few years since our 'fling' and i have changed a lot i dont know if he is intrested in me the way he used to be, he flitrs mildly but not always, i cant as im affraid of rejection. We share simmiler values and have the same beliefs about family life and accomplishments in life...
is it worth the risk of a newly developing friendship?
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (17 January 2006):
 This metaphor is definately about life and it's ever continous cycle. He is saying through the ups and down's you two have had that your friendship has and will remain solid. However this metaphor does not tell you anything about your future with him. I suggest on your next visit tell him the truth about your feelings and explain that your willing to wait awhile; if he needs time to sort things out. Tell him you value your time with him and would like to spend more time with him only. You can also tell him this "Life is like a butterfly; either catch the beauty or shortly it will be gone"!
Good luck
Ed
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reader, 2EsillyaMuse'D +, writes (17 January 2006):
I think he's saying he doesn't know what he wants. He feels loyalty to his girlfriend, but probably also had feelings for you as well. His feelings are probably waffling, they're "sometimes fast, sometimes slow, sometimes full of garbage and sometimes not there". He seems as confused about his feelings as you are about his metaphore.
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