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writes: Help, I told a friend i fancied that i was interested (which is a big thing for me) a few months ago, and i definately thought there were signs, as did most of my/her friends. Unfortunately she just brushed me off saying she doesn't find me at all attractive. I'm not overly bad at dealing with this kind of thing so aside from mentally complaining about how shallow she was for a week or so i moved on. But the problem is were still really close and recently we've started upsetting each other over everything we say, i sometimes feel it would be easier just to avoid her more just 2 stop upsetting myself and her. we clearly care 2 much about what each other thinks and i have no idea how 2 deal with this! Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (26 April 2006):
 I would say that the cause of upset could very well be surpressed or hidden emotions here. Obviously you were a little hurt over the rejection and she maybe surpressing feelings of her own.
Avoiding her is one option or sitting down and talking about how you are both feeling. If you take that option then you need to address it from the angle of wanting to sort out you two not assuming she has feelings which she may not. Hope that helps.
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