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writes:I've had feelings for my teacher for over three years and they've only gotten stronger. I think I'm in love with him and I know I can't do anything about it (I'm clever enough to figure that out). But it's become harder and harder to keep it in, like, whenever he says my name I tingle all over and I blush whenever he gets close to me! I've already told my closest friend about it but I don't think she realises how much I REALLY REALLY like him and about how I need advice on this. I admit I'm not the most outgoing and talkative person in the world or the most beautiful (but I like to think of myself as pretty). I've been having dreams of him lately that I'd confronted my fear and kissed him (silly you're probably thinking) but whenever he talks to me I know what to say but it's like i forget as I get lost in his warm brown eyes. I mean I don't want to fall out of love with him, I just need advice to stop me wanting to faint whenever he talks to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): Its good that you're not thinking of him as much now, its a sign that the crush is fading. The remaining feelings or soft spot you have for him should soon fade without notice as your mind and emotions seamlessly blend back to normality.
All you can do really is discipline your mind every time you think about him, by telling yourself these feelings are pointless towards a teacher, and just let time do the rest:)
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reader, Meg998 +, writes (22 October 2012):
Meg998 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't mean to snap and he's defo not a creep (believe me). I defo wasn't imagining it either and I'm not thinking very strongly of him anymore and I don't "love" him as much as I used to but I still really like him and I still can't act cool around him my sisters like him too (probably not in the way I do) but he's a really fit guy and I still cant act cool around him any tips?? (You've probably been the most helpful post anyway). :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2012): Either you're imagining him staring at you because its what you'd like to be the case, as then it would confirm in your mind that he may have a thing for you as you do for him, or he's a dodgy creep who shouldn't be working in a school around young girls.
And sorry about my previous post, I was only concerned, no need to snap my head off...thanks.
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reader, Meg998 +, writes (5 October 2012):
Meg998 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'be gotten better BUT i need a way so that i can act cool around him instead of just giving one word answers like: good, yeah or just ummm (!!!). ya no, just once and a while i'd like to say : i'm good thanks you?.
P.s. anyone have any suggestion why he was staring at me in chior?? (i was singing the right notes)!
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reader, Meg998 +, writes (5 October 2012):
Meg998 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd no i am NOT Megan Stammers!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2012): You've relised you can't have him. Good. Try to find someone else you know that's in love with someone forbidden ( not Justin bieber) and tell them about it! But make sure they'll understand and not tell!!!Make a list of things you like about him. Who else has those things? Then make a list of everything you know about him. Is it enough to fall in love on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2012): Meg998 (OP) you wouldn't happen to be the 15 year old girl Megan Stammers from Bishop Bell Church Of England High School, who fled to france with a math teacher 30 year old Jeremy Forrest would you?
If so you need to return home, so get in touch with your parents, and let the police arrest this creep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2012): This is just a crush and you will get over it soon, I was 16 and had a crush on a teacher too, everyone has. Its never going to happen with you and him. I'm 18 and over it already, trust me talk to guys your own age and it will fade away.
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (23 September 2012):
 Its a attraction we get no matter the age. I had a serious crush on too infactuation love is what I called it on this lady once
and I was way past teenager year I still think of her and like her too. Also it's a situation similar To yours this person I can't date but only admire from afar the long way. I didn't think it would go away it doesn't but you will like other people also cause you still young.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 September 2012):
 Here's what a read in your submittal:
"I've had feelings for my teacher for over three years..." then Blah, blah blah.... etc..... up to: "I mean I don't want to fall out of love with him, I just need advice to stop me wanting to faint whenever he talks to me."
Please read the several articles that you will be directed to by your concerned and caring Aunts, here on this site.... and then re-focus your attention appropriately...
Good luck... and study hard!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2012): I had a similar problem when I was about your age. I had depression and one teacher in particular was there to help me, and I developed feelings for him. It's easy to develop feelings for a person who plays an emotional importance in your life, but in this case, your teacher could possibly be filling a role that no one else is, yet should be. I would suggest that you focus your feelings and attention else where, and try to get those roles filled by someone or something else. These are unrealistic fantasies of yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2012): There's not much advice anyone can give you, as crushes fade on their own in time.
The reason I'm guessing this has gone on for 3 years is because you've been thinking about him in the wrong way, fantasizing and living in hope that you may one day be together, and its just kept your feelings hanging on. What you need to be doing is disciplining your mind and letting go.
Keep telling yourself that these feelings are hopeless and will never lead to anything. Keep your head down in class and concentrate on your work so you're not constantly thinking of him. In time you should begin to see sense and accept the idea that this is going nowhere and has to end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): Your not in love with him, how could you possibly be in love with him. You have no idea what he is like outside of the classroom when he doesn't have to act professional, you don't know who he truly is. You have a crush, you find him attractive and nice, I had a crush on a teacher too. Thought she was the kindest and beautiful person, but I didn't love her it was just a crush. I still don't know what it's like to be in love, and I was in legal relationships.
Other than that I don't know how you can keep from fainting when you see his big luscious sexy brown eye's...just chill out I guess...good luck
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