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writes: I think my gf is seeing someone but i dont know...I've been going out with her for a little over a year now and i think she may be seeing someone else, i try to confront her and ask her about it but she always avoids it or leaves me with an answer that doesnt answer my question, what can i do :( ????? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tex +, writes (20 April 2006):
Tex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx guys, i will try thise things and i hpe it wirks out, i just dont want to lose her, but thankumuch, much appreciatedtex
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2006): Her avoidance of your very important question is a total lack of respect for you and your relationship with her. This is very bad treatment of you, and her behaviour is a good indicator that she is 'hiding' something and she has poor character. Take this as a learning lesson, one shouldn’t never have a love interest in their lives, that compromise one's integrity and treats them like crap. If I were you, I'd refuse to accept her poor behaviour and move on. Give this time and mourn. In time, the urge to contact her will fade away and you will find another much nicer, gf..one who has integrity and treats you well. Good luck, hun.
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reader, Gryphon +, writes (20 April 2006):
 Hello Tex,I would agree with martini completely except I would feel it necessary to corner her and ask her pointedly to answer the question with the known consequence being that you intend to leave if she won't answer - not necessarily because she is cheating (though you would have to make that decision). As awful as it sounds, if she is fine with leaving instead of talking to you, then not only are you probably better off without her but she probably had no intention of staying anyway. Good relationships absolutely must involve honest communication and if she is not willing to participate then you've got to do what you got to do to stay emotionally intact.
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reader, Softie +, writes (20 April 2006):
 Hi, I think you should demand for a straight answer. Why wait for her to hurt you? No one should be used as an achor or a backup. I hope you find happiness.Softie
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2006): Damn I hate it when people avoid questions! ESPECIALLY when the question isn't trivial. The least she could do is address it. Well, there's a risk factor to my suggestion, and I think other Uncles/Aunts may give you some sort of lengthy advice, but if you still suspect her for a bit longer and you can't come to any hard conclusion, I suggest you break up with her before she gets the chance to possibly cheat on you.
OR, you can try to persist, but it seems she's just using u as an anchor to see if her other relationship works or not.
Hard to do I know, but it will be better for your heart in the longer run.
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reader, prttymtlkitty +, writes (20 April 2006):
 Follow your gut cowboy. Why are you letting it ride? What would you do if you got the truth and you were right? Are you afraid of pushing the envelope and losing her? Chances are she is avoiding the confrontation because she simply couldn't handle telling you and might just leave instead of facing it. Easier to leave then admit she was cheating maybe? Well, whatever is making you suspect she is, mirroring her behavior even though your not cheating might open her eyes to what your seeing or make her straighten up cause its clear she already fears losing you or she wouldn't avoid the issue. I wish you all the courage you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2006): Hi Tex,i have the same problem with you too. i think my bf is seeing someone else too. We have been together for 1.5 year. I confronted him, he told me i shouldn't be upset about that because they are just friends. However, i left to overseas 4 months ago and i am still in overseas at the moment....so i am unsure if he is telling to truth. i am not sure if i should trust him
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2006): ask her straight. say if she doesnt tell u the truth, you're over. u may love her, but u dont want 2 be with someone who isnt faithful and wont tell u the truth.
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