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writes: I think I might be having an early mid-life crisis. I am 30 soon and am wondering what to do with my life and don't feel like I have achieved much. I have been working at the same comapany for years and have lived in the same small town all my life. The trouble is I just have no idea what I want to do. I think I would like to live in a bigger town to meet more people, but I have a mortgage and it is scary as I would have no job, no friends or family around me. I have been single for about 3 years and some of my friends have said that what I really need is a good bloke, however, I'm not sure if this is the answer, I have always been independant and don't want to rely on someone else. Also I never meet anyone decent and am very fussy about who I go out with... I just don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2006): This is a common feeling for people turning 30 - as it's seen as such a big milestone - in reality you are the same person just another year older. At the same time it is however a useful yardstick in accessing where you are in life and where you want to be.
It sounds as if you would be more settled if you had a partner and were investing time and money in something that you thought had a future. It may well be that the small town you live in has become all too familiar, with the same faces and no new 'prospects' on the horizon.
Have you thought about renting out your property, finding a new job and doing a 'house share' in a new location - an easy way to meet new people?
Alternatively a complete change such as moving overseas for six months to a year can make you feel like you have made a big achievement.
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reader, Mega +, writes (4 May 2006):
First off Independance is something that you can still have within a relationship.
I would suggest that you do go for it you will make new friends and get a new job and who knows you could meet the guy you are looking for.
I have moved several times in my life and although it is inconveniant and can be lonely at first, i have quickly settled into a new routine and made new friends.
If it doesnt work out you still have family and friends where you grew up. So do it, take the leap into the unknown it may be the best thing you ever did.
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reader, Sis6372 +, writes (4 May 2006):
I moved to a new town approximatly 9 months ago. I knew no one and had no job. After a month I got a job, started making friends, and now I love it. I never want to leave. I have met the most awesome people and have the most awesome boyfriend, not to mention a great job. Its the best and scariest thing I've ever done for myself. I needed the change from a small town to a bigger one, and it was the best decision I've ever made. Go for it, its scary but it will all work out in the end. GOOD LUCK!!
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reader, ellie87 +, writes (4 May 2006):
Im sure when everyone turns 30 they have this problem... but my cousin is 34 and handed in his notice at work and booked a flight to australia, with no job over there and no friends there and he loves it. And its very easy to find a job out there. Be brave and do something amazin with your life... you can always make friends and you can stil visit your family. GO ON DO IT!!
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reader, Solution Sarah +, writes (4 May 2006):
If i were in your position i would feel like a Robot, you have been doing the same thing day in day out for years now, and your bored. When you hit a certain age you start to wonder what your role is in life, why are you here and what are you meant to be doing. Before a big move, especially as you have a mortgage, you should consider absolutely everything, from jobs, to property prices, etc etc, the last thing you want to do is make the move and then regret it, if you really are not happy with your current situation, and you can see a better, more exciting future elsewhere, then follow your heart, but remember, the grass isnt always greener on the other side.
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