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writes:I am quite an ambitious person and get attached to my dreams or goals i have set for myself in life. Sometimes people get a clue about them and they start to create hurdles and difficulties in seeing that i do not achieve them. I would say, this is a typical perverted thinking seen in majority of losers. Though i try to keep myself separate from the goals, the obsession sets in sooner or latter and i forget that it is just a goal and not the only thing that matters for me in life. Then i end up destroying relationship with people who find my intense obsession for attaining what i want. How do i work on goals so that relationship with people do not get affected a lot?
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (22 April 2007):
 Most of us have goals we want to achieve for ourselves away from our relationships but the trick is to make both sides of your life successful. You may achieve all the things you want in your career etc but could you honestly say your life had been a success if you got to the end of it and had no one around you? You can achieve all the goals you want but it's the people you achieve them with that matter.
You need to learn to separate these parts of your life and keep them running alongside each other. Maybe some counselling to get to the bottom of your obsessive behaviour is a good place to start. If you want a relationship to work, you have to put everything else to one side for at least one night a week and be with them in body and mind. If you're not in a place where you can do that, you need to rethink whether or not you're ready for a relationship at all.
Hope this has helped. Please start to think about what's really important in this life. It's too short and it's a horrible thing to have regrets. It's the people you share life with that make it worthwhile, not where you go or what you do. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): I wouldn’t worry too much its good that you have goals in life,
However if you put some light feel good energy into these goals you will find they will happen faster, Your getting too heavy! That’s why your Dreams haven’t manifested, any negative energy attracts negative energy, obsession and yearning is negative energy that’s your block!
You can get into this feel good zone by laughing, feeling joyful, getting exited, you can do this yourself and with the help of loved ones just happy moments with family and friends,
Get into the feeling place of your wants like Lynn Grabhorn says In “Excuse me your life is waiting” The most valuable book I’ve bought in years for my life,
It’s then when you read this you’ll realize theirs not a victim among us and nothing and no-one is creating these hurdles in your life and they never have it was you all along. I won’t go into too much detail but it changes your concepts of life,
Just remember no one is writing the script of your life except you, so make it a good one,
And try and feel more positive xx
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