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writes: It takes me about an hour to ejaculate during sex. Sometimes I can't at all. I really enjoy sex. This has happened with all my partners. How do I make things happen quicker?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): Dear Waxfoot,
I have the same problem and have done some research. So far all I have found is that it is harder to ejaculate is you are trying to. So in layman's terms: if you want to, it wont happen. I may be wrong, but at least its may help somebody. just sit back and relax. Let your partner know how you feel. Not mushy chick flick status, but tell her how good it feels. Let her know your enjoying it, and remember, this curse is kinda a gift. You can continue pleasing your partner and you get a lot of pleasure too! You also don't have to worry as much about problems such as pregnancy or STD (this is souly my opinion), and at least you don't suffer from premature ejaculations. I hope this can calm a nerve or two and help a few people. All and all, just relax and have fun, enjoy your time with your partner!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): I suffer from it also. I have just started going out with a great girl who i really care for and i think what purrfectionist84 says makes sense, so im not going to rush things and just enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): I rarely ejaculate, and my wife and I have intercourse for hours at a time plus foreplay. For me this isn’t a problem because I do have multiple powerful orgasms during sex that she can feel, weather I ejaculate or not. I know that she wants me to, as do I, but I have yet to find one thing that causes me to ejaculate time and time again. There is nothing wrong with either of us, and we have a lot of love and passion together. So as long a Dr. tells you that you are healthy don’t worry about it just talk with each other about it and relax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): I have the same problem man, I love sex, but it takes me forever to get off. My g/f will have two to three orgasms and I still won't cum. Its really disapointing because I know she would love to please me as well.
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reader, danb +, writes (6 January 2006):
hey look on the bright side, shes happy and its less messy!
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (5 January 2006):
 If your partner is bothered by the fact that it takes you a long time to reach orgasm, you could try "warming up" first prior to sex. This could entail lots of foreplay: oral sex, masturbation, talking dirty... Discover your fantasies and act them out together. Hopefully your woman is openminded and willing to explore different possibilities so that your sex life will always be new and exciting.
I'm assuming that you've been in meaningful relationships with all of your partners. If not, then maybe you should ask yourself whether you need to be in love to really get the most enjoyment out of sex. Would you orgasm sooner if you loved your partner and felt a mental/emotional/spiritual connection as well as the physical one?
Don't worry about rushing things too much. I think that most women enjoy long, passionate lovemaking. You might be just what the doctor ordered for the right girl!
Good luck!
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