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writes:I was once engaged about seven years ago to wonderful handsome man who treated me like a princess. I broke off the engagment as I feel that i wasan't ready for marriage and I didn't feel that I loved him. After we broke up I found out that my ex was cheating on me when we were together and married that woman. I of course was devasted. I have been dating off and on now after some years and have not found a real connection. I sometimes regret breaking up with my ex and think that maybe I have lost my true love. I fear that I will always be uphappy about the decision I made but at the same time I have hope that my true love is out there. I am getting old (I'm 31) and I just don't want to live in the past anymore. It's true what they say "you don't know what you have until you lose it" How can I let go of the past after all these years? Also I am still a virgin and don't want to put out until I feel that I am truly in love and he with me. Please help!
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reader, AuthorChick +, writes (21 April 2008):
First of all, if you found out your ex was cheating on you, then it's good you broke things off. He wasn't being true to you (and he definitely wasn't your one true love!). Secondly, it's never too late to find real and lasting love. But you do have to stop living in the past. What happened, happened. It's now time to look to the future, be open to the possibilities, all the while remaining true to your core values. If you have questions, feel free to visit my site LisaSteadman.com where I teach individuals how to break free of limiting relationship beliefs and welcome happy and whole love into their lives. Good luck!
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reader, Tamarillo  +, writes (20 April 2008):
In this case I would say move on..he cheated on you while you two were still together so it was a good thing that you broke it off when you did. He wasn't your true love. And besides he is married with this girl that he cheated on you with.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (20 April 2008):
 You need to see how lucky you are that you broke off this engangement. He was cheating on you and was not a great guy and I doubt he is your true love. You have no reason to regret what you did, thank god you didn't marry someone who had been cheating and have all of it end in divorce and hurt much worse. I agree with the previous poster in that you may miss the security and the relationship but not him. You admitted you ended the engangement because you didn't feel you loved him so what makes you think you do now? Sometimes the fear of not having met someone else or not having the same feelings for anyone else since your ex makes you think he may have been "the one". It isn't so. Everything happens for a reason and it is clear the reason yall didn't end up together. You will meet your true love I have no doubt. And even though I seriously don't think he is your true love, if you are meant to be with him then you will. Good luck with everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Move on. It's actually a good thing you didn't end up with your ex, because as you mentioned, he was cheating on you! In the right time you will find someone who won't cheat and will love you forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): It's possible that your instincts knew something was wrong and thats what made you break up with him. I dont know the entire situation but since he cheated maybe its a blessing in disguise. Have you considered the possibility that its not your Ex that you're missing but the feel of security that being in a relationship brings?
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reader, salvation +, writes (20 April 2008):
when two people are truely in love they dont cheat and they cant bear a minute without each other i dont think he was your true love. There is a guy out there for you a true love. Go out and have some fun live your life and you will find true love.
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