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writes:I am so deeply in love with one of my best friends and she has liked me since the 6th grade. We've been best friends for a very long time and just recently, I have asked her out. She said that all she wants right now is to be friends because she got out of a hard relationship and she doesn't want to ruin our friendship. I accepted that and we're still the closest friends you can find. The other day, we were hanging out at this fancy dining place, and we happened to look over to see this couple. The guy asked her to marry him and she said yes. I looked to my friend and we started talking about the future. Before i knew it, we were back at my house having a couple beers and just hanging out like to good friends. As we were hanging out, I mentioned her last relationship and how I would be different. She got really angry and just left. We used to text each other at least 100 times a day. Now I'm lucky just to get a 'hello.' How do I get her to start talking to me again and trust me as a friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): It sounds like she only wants a friend, and she trusted you to keep it that way. You should try to accept that if you talk to her again, it can't be anything more than friends. If you can do that, just talk to her. Be honest and tell her that you're sorry and won't let it happen again and don't want to lose her as a friend. She might have to chill out for a few days, but if you're as good of friends as you say, she'll talk to you and give you a chance if you ask. Things may change in the future, when she's ready, but until then you've gotta stay the friend.
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