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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend half a year ago and haven't spoken to him in a month. The thing is I said some awful things which I am ashamed of now. I had just found out that he had lied and cheated with lots of other girls the whole time we were together and I was very angry. I called him lots of names and I am truly sorry I did that. Though I do believe he deserved it that time, in hindsight I probably should've shown a little more restraint. I do not want to call him to say how sorry I am about being so rude- but how do I let this go and not think about my shoddy behaviour?
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (1 May 2008):
 He deserved every damn word hun. You shouldn't be put in the blame for what you said espiecally, with someone who wasn't faithful and turned out to be a loser at the end. He isn't worth your life for good. There's still plenty of fish in the sea and your bound to be treated well with the right person.Best wishes. Sarah.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): Truthfully, in hindsight he probably feels better that you got mad at him. If you had just said "ok we're through" without ANY type of real outburst he would've thought he meant nothing to you. That thought would bother him ALOT more.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 May 2008):
You feel regret for it, although as you say he sounds like he deserved being called all kinds of things.
You have no need to appologise. I think it will be fairly obvious to him that you were hurt and lashing out.
The fact you are on here and worrying about it shows that you are a decent person.
As long as you learn from the mistakes you make in life you'll be fine.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): Why would you apologise for getting angry at his cheating.
Please don't let yourself be a dormat, if he cheated he deserved your anger.
It seems like you still have feelings for him and are just using the apology as an excuse to talk to him.
Your behaviour is justified, his was not.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 well hun i dont think what u did was wrong..he was cheating with other girls and it totally hurt you..of course u said things to him cause u care for him and make him realise what he did was wrong..ur behaviour wasnt shoddy.anygirl in your place would have done the same thing..so let it go!!
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