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writes: Hi I need some advice. Please be patient. I need to explain some things for things to be clearerI'm 22, and I want to persue my dream of going overseas to work for a few months or a year, etc, but I want to go and experience things and learn, the more i think about it the more that i want to, plus another part of it, is the love of my life is there, therefore I can be with him.Currently I am self employed, I have a restaurant with my father, I love the industry but not what I am doing, and where i am in this moment in time, I dont feel that the store that i am in will let me grow as an individual and open doors of opportunties, I want to go on my own, we've had the place for 2yrs, but my experience is highly precious to me and irreplaceable, as i have learnt loads of things, I have suffered alot in the business, as i had to make it a success where it was falling to pieces, I had to fix things all on my own with no one guiding me, or helping me!My blood, sweat and tears went into the store, and i suffered alot, that i no longer have that passion for the store that i had initially, and it has affected my health too. I know things are not easy, but this was way over the top. I've expressed my unhappiness, and my dad isn't as young as he used to be to carry on with the place, so the best alternative wld be to sell.I've told them I want to travel, but they refuse to let me go. I want to do things on my own and they refuse me.I wake up in the morning hating work, and if i do not get out soon, i'll soon hate everything about the industry.My next problem is that i fear that i wont be financially stable in the country that i want to go to,(UK)in the country i am in now, i am self employed, have the money to do what i need to to, so i am comfortable with that department.However I fear that I wont have those opportunities when im there, my parents make me feel as thou i wont make it in life without them, and i want to prove them wrong, and that i can be successful without them or it doesn't nessecarily mean you have to be self employed to be successful.I know i sound shallow by saying this, but i want to be successful, "who wouldn't" I want to be comfortable to get the things i need and be happy. at the moment i can get what i want but im not happy. my bf is very successful and i dont want to be the weaker of the two who isn't finacial stable, and to be catered for. I want us both to be strong in our choosen paths. Please help.How are job opportunities in the uk or surrounding areas. Im confused, but i want to go, and do what i want. PlEASE help with some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2005): Hi beenthere,
Thanks for your reply. Well I am in "partnership" with him, so half the place is mine. therefore I am intitled to the profits and my half. They make me feel as though I will not be successful without them, they are constantly putting me down, saying i wont make it. Im confused and hurt by their silly opinions, I have suffered for two years to make them happy, and as a reward i get told I wont make it?
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reader, beenthere +, writes (12 December 2005):
i live in the uk and can tell you that you may find it dificult to be successful. i don't want to put you off though. if you have a lot of experience, you will find something. will your bf support you until you can support yourself? if he will then let him because this would make your life so much easier. just as long as you both remember that it is only temporary. your family need to accept that you want a life of your own. they can not expect you to live for them. if you do sell the business would your father share the profits with you? this may be something worth talking about. it would at least give you something. hope that's helped. good luck
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