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writes:I am feeling so sad and desperate.... I really messed up my relationship with my girlfriend of almost four years.... she left her husband for me and I ALWAYS gave her a hard time about him because they still had communication since they had businesses together as well as two sons. I finally drove her away. We moved to Dallas two months ago and neither one of us has a job yet. Do you think this has a lot to do with us fighting so much and her finally giving up on me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Thank you soooo much!!! We are going to take time away from each other (separate cities) for a while. Thank you again!!
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reader, meforu +, writes (13 August 2007):
Hi,
I have two friends who have been together for a little more than a year now and they too have this same problem. One doesn't need a job and the other isn't motivated to get a job. Regardless of what your situation with employment is, not having a job and having a money strain situation is always going to put stress on your relationship. Without having a job its hard to balance doing the things you want to do that are new and keep your love life interesting or the things you can do all the time and still afford. Just by being around my two friends I have noticed the stress in their relationship. It has gotten to the point of one wanting to leave the other. Security is a huge factor in keeping people happy in their relationships. If one doesn't feel secure because of lack of employment its going to throw everything off balance. My friend has gotten a job now and her and her girlfriend are running smoothly and haven't had a fight in a while. She probably hasn't totally given up on you, I would suggest telling her how you feel sit her down and say hey we aren't us anymore we need to figure it out because you obviously need to work some issues out. Find a solution that works for the both of you and just show her you are trying to make her feel secure and I wouldn't give her such a hard time about her ex and her communication. She may have moved on but business and family are necessary and if she has to communicate with him so be it show her you trust her and you aren't worried it will make her feel more secure. Hope this helps! good luck!
~meforu~
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