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writes:am 35 yrs old and seriously having feelings for this guy at work place. he is 48 yrs old and single. he told me he too has feelings for me but we have met once outside the office, i call him more often and even text him, but he doesnt seem to do more, he tells me he is not a fan of calling ang texting and said he is an old fashion type of a guy. i really like him. what am i suppose to do.
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reader, incendia1990  +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Ugh, talk about frustrating and confusing! I'd say let up on the calling and texting a little bit. Give him more space and see what he does. If this is all still new and everything, it may just be a matter of taking it slow. I know its hard but when things start to develop between people, rushing it will only cause it to fail before it gets off the ground. :/ I do hope he straightens out his actions and comes let you know what is going on! hugs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Old fashioned just doesn't cut it. He either shows you respect or not. Telling you he has feelings for you is one thing. You have even told him that you have feelings for him. It's not like he's working with an unknown slate and is too shy and scared to make the FIRST move on you. You have both put it OUT THERE. In my opinion, he doesn't seem as keen as what you are. Maybe he's dangling the carrot in your stew to keep you interested while he waits to see if there's anyone else that might be interested in him. I think if he was interested in you to the extent that you deserve, then he would be making whatever effort he could to make you feel wanted and not lose your interest. I think if you still want to pursue it, you need to be upfront and honest and tell him what you expect from him. But I'm 'old fashioned' when it comes to love. I think if it's meant to happen it will and when it does, it sweeps you off your feet, makes you feel like there's no other woman on earth, gives you butterflies when even his name is mentioned, makes you smile just by thinking of him and knowing that you do the same to him in all of the above. I don't think when it's 'right' you have to post about him not wanting to ring you or text you. If he was interested enough in you, he'd LEARN how to text even if he had no idea how to do it in the first place and I don't see what using a phone has to do with being 'old fashioned', Christ, it's not like we live in horse and cart era. You need to also ask yourself why is he still single at 48? Don't sell yourself short and settle for anything less than what you deserve..........in my opinion, I'd let this one slide and pursue elsewhere. Good Luck
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