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writes:How do I get over somone who cheated on me. I see her alot too, around campus, which sucks. I still have feelings for her, for some reason, and I think about her more than I should. It's been over a month now and I still think about her everyday.This shit is killing me. I need a new girl in my life but i first need to get this one out.
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reader, SinVA +, writes (14 November 2008):
SinVA is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I've been trying to swamp myself with activities so hopefully i'll get over her soon enough. I feel like I wasted a little over a year with her and now the fact that i still think about her after what she did annoys me. Thanks for the advice, it really helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): It's natural to keep thinking about someone you were with before, for a while. It will get easier as time goes along.
Don't be in too much of a rush to find someone else as it could be a mess if you are still thinking of the other one.
Go out with your friends and see your family, fill your mind up with other things and if all else fails, immerse yourself in your books!
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reader, lostone +, writes (14 November 2008):
I hate to say this, because if you've been having a hard time with this you've probably heard it enough, but it will get better over time. I went through something similar a few months ago, my boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me and left me and I was living with him.
You'll probably still think about her everyday for a long time, but it will stop hurting so intensely. Rushing into a new relationship to get over the old will only be unfair to the new girl if you haven't gotten over the majority of your hurt; and when you do, you'll feel it and know it.
Things will get better although you'll still have days where things just creep up on you and you'll feel horrible, but those days become less frequent. Once you get to that and start forming crushes again without a thought for your old flame, you'll know you're safe to date someone new.
Hope that helped at least some!
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