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writes: When is enough enough?...I need major help!I have been with this guy for a year. I met him while i was on a break with my boyfriend. Things at first were WONDERFUL....he had everything (he swept me off my feet). However, as time went on we began to fight alottttt!!! at least one fight everyday over NOTHING...stupid things. However, for me i would remember all the wonderful things about him, our great chemistry, and he filled all the things that my ex wasnt. As things progressed he wanted a real relationship. I couldnt give that to him because i wasnt sure if things with my ex were really dead! Plus we fought so muchhh that I was scared that if I decided to be with him all we would do is fight and in the end i would have gave up my ex (when in all our relationship was great and he is wonderful) for a person that all i do with is fight!The thing is ...is that i feel we fight because of the situation i put him in...that situation being im not completely over my ex and cant move forward. So I feel that i will never know what we could have had if i dont give it a chance. BUTTTTT we fight about other things just as much. Its like everything i do an issue is made out of it... I mean getting my bangs cut is a problem for him...a phone call on the other line is an issue. I care about him alot...and i could see us together but the fighting is too much and i feel this is just his personality. I dont want to live in REGRET for not taking the chance!!! BUT this fighting has got me to the point where I am fed Up....HELPPPPPPP
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reader, Tray-Lou  +, writes (25 August 2007):
well let me ask you this question and answer it to yourself truthfully if this guy started going out with you but at the same time he wasnt sure if he wanted to be with an ex girlfriend how would you feel i dont mean to sound blunt but nobody likes to feel likes to feel second best and nobody wants to be with someone when they regret not giving their ex another chance
you need to understand that your feelings for your ex are seriously effecting you and your partner and if you are always thinking of your ex you shouldn't be hurting this guys feelings as he can obviously tell what you are thinking
if you cant get your ex out of your head then you should finish with this guy regardless of whether your ex wants you or not and if it doesnt work with your ex then you'll regret it and see it as a mistake you made but we all make mistakes you just need to tell your current guy whats bothering you and how you feel as he is clearly in pain to
good luck
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