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writes:can someone help me, i really need it...me and my girl (shes not my girlfriend anymore) are in a bit of a pickle right now. i screwed up big time, i accidentally read her myspace messages and saw that she was talking to another guy. it was her ex but she has always said they are just friends. i kept it from her for around 2 months and then i told her that i read them. now she doesn't know if she can trust me anymore, or ever again.i love this girl with all my heart, and i've apologized so many times for what i did and told her that i feel horribly guilty and ashamed and that it was a stupid mistake and one that i would give anything to take back.how can i get her to trust me again?? i'd do anything to get her to trust me.
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reader, anelos +, writes (27 February 2007):
 You know what...I am having just about the same issue with my boyfriend. I checked his myspace and emails, and he was talking to his ex. Not MY mistake, HIS! If your girlfrind was talking to her EX in the first place, why should you build back the trust. Shes the dumbass who cant let go of her past. So I think that you shouldn't be to upset. Even tho thats easier said then done. plus she may be mad at you cause you caught her doing something SHE knows is wrong.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (27 February 2007):
 I know you love this girl. But, you have "accidently" read her myspace messages; instead of clicking off, you have read all her personal messages. That Stings, you`ve found that out, for both of you. You have, though, made a huge, huge effort at re-building her trust in you. I think, for your mistake, you have appologised enough. I know it will be hard, but just draw back for the moment; she knows you`re always there, give her support & caring from a distance, but just give things a "chance to breathe". Please let me know how you get on, Kind Regards, Heather.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 Trust can't be repaired in a day but what is great about your post is that you recognise how wrong what you did was. There are so many people who wouldn't take responsibility for invading someone elses' privacy, saying something drove them to it. You don't, which is fantastic. You need to impress upon her that you realise what you did was so wrong and you'd love a chance to make it up to her. She doesn't have to give you this chance. You just need to hope against hope that she will. I know this probably sounds like very poor advice but there really isn't an alternative.
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