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writes:I'm in love with my best friend but she is now head over heels with some guy shes just met, just because he has long dark hair. The thing is that everyone we know says we are the perfect couple and i know we are but all she can think about is him, but hes just got so many flaws its stupid. Thanks to this i have become a manic depressive and have started to self harm and i hate myself for not being with her. I just dont know what to do now, i cant live without her and all i want is for her to be happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): thanks for the advice mate, really means alot to me. The answer is well partially she knows, i should talk to her but i dont know how to start plus its not helping things im depressive. But then again she seems to be happy like she is, why should i be selfish enough to ruin things?
As for the friends ill see what i can do, unlikely shell listen but ill try.
Thanks for the tip on epilepsy, ill have a look see for it. Thanks again man
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 So, have you expressed your love to your best friend? Does she know that you've got an interest in dating her? If she's not aware of it, then you should make your interests known a little clearer. Maybe she's confiding in you because she still sees you as a friend and not a romantic interest.
Since it seems that you have some common friends between you, why not get them to present you as a better option then this long-haired intruder... or you could start growing you hair longer too?
Try to get your friends to play advocate for you. If she's not thinking clearly, maybe she needs an outside force to see the light.
If you are serious about being Manic/Depressive, I urge you to get and stay on your medications. I also want to give you this hint (taken straight from my history). If you aren't staying clear of episodes, suggest that you get evaluated for epilepsy. My ex-wife was diagnosed as Manic Depressive and she turned out to be epileptic... just tuck that in your back pocket for future reference.
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