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writes: I love my husband and he says he loves me too. But there is no passion in our relationship. He is content coming home, eating, sleeping and playing with our kid. I want more than that. I want a compliment, a hug, a kiss. is it too much to expect ? I tried telling him, but he says he is not expressive and has never expressed his love to anybody, no matter how close he is. Another thing, he is a workaholic. He works 2 hours more on an average compared to his fellow workers. And If I ask him to do something for me, he never ever does it on a single request. I have to remind him a thousand times, and only after I lose my temper and get angry , does he really start doing it. It maybe a small thing like getting something on the way backfrom work, or paying the gas bill, but it pisses me off how I have to get after him everytime I need something from him.He never calls me if he has no reason to.. never feels like surprising me, or saying something that will please me. I have turned into a nag now, all my dreams are shattered and I have started venting my anger out on my 3 yr old kid. Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 December 2006):
 Quite honestly I think you should make an appointment with your doctor and get a good overhaul. Once any physical problems can be ruled out then you need to make an appointment with a therapist and talk to them about your situation. They may suggest you get some marriage counseling as well. The fact that this is so cyclic makes me think that it needs some professional help. I'm sure you can overcome it but you just need the right tools. Good luck, honey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGuess u r right.. But I was never like this before. It was all so wonderful. I was the most patient and level headed girl around. After abt a year of marriage, when I realised he was taking me for granted, I began telling him how I felt. I tried my best to show him what I want , but the situation never improved.It was always him and himself. I began suffering from an inferiority complex. Eventually, I became short tempered and frustrated. Now this has become a vicious cycle. Every time he does or rather doesnt do something I want him to, I get angry and sulk, We fight and I stop telking to him. In a couple of days, I forget everything and then it is all good for a few more days until our next argument. What is happening here ? Is something wrong with me ? Please help me..Please
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 December 2006):
Whoa Nellie! You had me thinking one thing until the second to the last sentence. If you are taking your unhappiness out on your three year old then we have a major problem here. Not just a husband who doesn't shower you with all the attention you feel you deserve. You need to get some anger management therapy or counseling ASAP. The problem may not be with your husband but rather with you and how you are expressing your frustrations and anger. Once you can control yourself then you can try to see if you and your husband can reach some middle ground on the other stuff. Good luck.
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