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writes: I'm 20 and my b/f dumped me about two months ago and I havent spoke to him at all since but he's emailed me saying he misses talking. I havent got over it all because it was so stressful. I want him back but I don't want to embarrass myself if he says no because when he broke up with me he was so insensitive. I do love him and I can forgive him. What shall I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2006): I'm going to take a tough stance on this because I have been in this situation. Dear, you do absolutely nothing. You are vulnerable right now because you still love him and you are emotionally blind. You may have been his lover and best friend at one time. However, through his insensitive, uncaring behaviours, you have been hurt deeply and painfully. What does that tell you about his character. If I were you, I would learn from this heartbreak and move on. Your ex bf is feeling lonely and needs the contact...but that is all he wants. Otherwise, he would be making big overtures to be back in your life. You'd be amazed at what risks a man will take, to capture the attentions of a woman he wants. Frankly, he sounds confused and needy, right now and he's discovering what life is like without you. You need to stand your ground, do not reply which will send him the clear message that he cannot just 'randomnly pick ' what he needs from you whenever he feels lost and alone. He did it to you once...he has become a liability. If he's e-mailing simply because he misses the talks...but he's not taking this further...then ythink clearly and realize--he's not being sincere. He's just using you to fill a need he has until another female walks into his life. You are being used. Plain and simple.
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