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writes:I'm with a girl who I love but I'm not sure we are right for each other. We are also good friends and have always been able to talk openly with each other, however I'm not sure how to approach this issue. We met 8 months ago. During that time I fell in love with her. She called it off saying she wasn't in love with me and needed time to get over her past relationship. Since then she has changed her mind, and suddenly the shoe is on the other foot. I want some time to see if we are compatible but she is a lot more serious about us in a way that I feel as needy.I'm not sure if we are definitely not right for each other (we are very different people), and I don't want to finish it without finding out. Should I bring this issue up or just wait and see what happens?What are your thoughts?
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reader, DR-BigBear  +, writes (30 October 2008):
Well if you feel that you are not right for each other do a little Q&A one night sit with her and just ask questions back and forth about your likes and dislikes how you see yourselves later on in life, how many kids you want, and be totally honest about your answers to each other. When she starts in with well we should be this or that.. ask her if that is truly how she wants it or if she just wants it that way because of you. See sometimes people will change their prospective to accomadate the one they are talking with and in so doing deny themselves what they really would like to say. So Make sure each of you are as honest as possible. and when you get done maybe you can see if both of your wants and needs for the future coencide or not. Hope this helps. and let me know.
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