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writes: Do I still fancy him?I have been with my partner for over a year and a half now and we are engaged and living together. I care about him alot and miss him when he is not around, but then when we are together he pushes for sex all the time!Its as if thats all he thinks about and I moan at him and push him away and tell him not right now. I thought that maybe I'm just not 'in the mood' for it as much as he is but I never feel like sleeping with him, I like to cuddle him but dread sleeping with him! I don't know why though, the thought has crossed my mind that maybe its because he is always pushing for sex that it feels like a chore to me and something I want to put off!I do love him but can't be bothered sleeping with him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): Please do not get yourself in the same situation I did. I married a man because I was being responsible. I followed my head, not my heart. He was, and still is, attractive on a socially acceptable scale, though not attractive to me sexually. He is a good man, but I dread sex with him. I always read that love will come in time, but it never did. It is a chore and he actually is not bad at it. I just am absolutely never into it. Things won't get better. You must follow your heart, not just your head in these matters. Unexplained forces are at work, my guess is chemistry we have yet to crack, not mystical forces and you must respect your body. It is trying to tell you something. Good luck.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (21 December 2005):
 give the poor guy what he wants
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): I can suggest that you review why you feel bored at the moment he tries to have sex with you, could be maybe because you want more romantic situation and he want more animal party now yours are living together.If a were you i would speak with him to explain your feelings and what you want,like,, need and how you like, and listen what he what or like too.Then try to agree and start to explore.Somentimes the engagement or compromise will produce a lot of stress and anxiety try to relax and dont forget why you whant to be with him for the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): Most likely you are right - "maybe because he is always pushing for sex that i feels like a chore to me." [sigh] I confess, I love sex. Sex is my #2 (communicative love is my #1). Me and my gf used to have sex about 3 times a day every time we saw each other for a few months. Now, almost a year later, we've tamed quite a bit, but the sexual experiences are still quite yummy. The thing is, I've learned to respect the quality of sex by doing it less and providing her more of everything else. I think it makes it a lot better. I like the emotional attachment to sex, and hopefully she likes it too.Hmmm... Your inquiry isn't a question at all really. You just want to hear what others might say about your situation, to share their experiences, so you may draw your own conclusions. Mmmhmm... 8]
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