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writes:Dear aunties and uncles, thanks for reading. Just a side-note, i'm not 16-17, i'm 20.Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years, and when we got together none of my friends liked him, no particular reason, they just didn't click. And i thought they were being awkward so i started spending more time with my boyfriend and i slowly lost all of my friends. And recently I think i've started to resent him for it a bit, because he sometimes made me feel bad for wanting to see them. Not in a manipulative way, just if i said i wasn't going to see him for a day he'd look all sad and i'd feel guilty. I love him and don't want to split up, but i'm confused as to how i'm feeling. Am i beginning to resent him? I have NO female friends to ask this question to anymore :( any advice is appreciated x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): I wonder if he is used to people reacting to him in that way. Poor boy, then it would be no wonder that he would want to make you such a figure in his world, that you love him so. You care for him and he you, so it makes great sense that the time you share should be rather high in importance on your agenda. It is also only right that you not abandon the friendships in your life, especially if it makes you feel socially irresponsible or lacking. But it is wrong, and I'm glad you clarified, to consider him at all manipulative or whiny or any other negative when he just wants to be with his girl. :)
I'm sure he will understand that you need a little "girl time" every now and then if you give it to him gently and promise extraspecial couple time whenever you return from an outing with your friends.
I think you sound like the sorta chickadee who wouldn't mind all that much this extra... pampering?... if you will. Some girlfriends would be annoyed and find him "clingy" but you seem to understand this sort of male character, one which is not to be considered needy or at all pathetic, but... just the sort who prefers his girl to his guys! Probably pretty darned independent and self- sufficient as well, with quite the Mind of his own? I can't Know from the relative vagueness of your description of his person but, hm- sounds like a keeper.
-Tante Victoire
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reader, oopslookout  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 If he really cares for you he would look into the future and say "I have the rest of my life with this woman." Let you go andhave your girls night out instead of trying to manipulate you like a spoiled brat.
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