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writes: Dear Cupid, im 17 and i really fancie my dads friend, he has a girlfriend and you can tell he doesnt really love her. he always flirts with me and i wana tell him how i feel but im to scarred because i dont like showing my emotions as ive had really bad experiences in relationships. He is ten years older which doesnt matter as i have been out with someone who is nine years older. I really wana find out how he feels and i need some advice on what to do about this situationGirl in da corner
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2006): No worries. I knew you were talking to me. Please do get some counselling. It will do you wonders.
Take care Kiddo.
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reader, GIRL_IN_DA_CORNER +, writes (23 July 2006):
GIRL_IN_DA_CORNER is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i havent had counselling but im thinking of going because my head is messed up.Once again thank you for your advice and sorry for spelling your name wrong lol x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2006): Have you had counselling with being taken advantage of as this may be a cause to you turning to older men?
I hope you say yes as dealing with it now will help you in the long run; you don't want this coming up in future relationships and causing you to doubt trust in a lover.
I say this as I know what such action have done to me and my life.
You may think you have it under control but this is a false sense of security.
In the end you will make your choice as it is your agency.
Just take care of yourself Babe.
*hugs*
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reader, GIRL_IN_DA_CORNER +, writes (22 July 2006):
GIRL_IN_DA_CORNER is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for your advice malayce, honestly i do know for a fact he doesnt love her because he told my dad. I'm still a virgin but i have been taken advantage of if u know what i mean. I fancie older men because they are so mature and much easier to get along with than boys my age. I would never want him to cheat on his girlfriend as ive been in that situation where someone cheated on me and i wouldnt wish that feeling on anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): I think having a crush on an older man is "normal".
Is it in fact true that he does not love his girlfriend and maybe interpreting his innocent flirting as something real?
How would your Dad advise you? Would this crush if acted upon ruin his friendship with this 27 year old man?
How would you feel if you were dating someone and found out they cheated on you?
Is there a root cause to your attraction for older men while being 17?
Being you are a young woman; grown men should not be having sex with you. They are using you Babe.
I think you may be struggling with your own identity, your self worth, self esteem and seeking a counsellor would help you-turning to older men won't.
Please look out for yourself and know that it is hard to have wisdom at 17 and do not confuse being sexually active with older men as being mature, responsible, and wise beyond your years.
Take care of yourself.
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