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writes:My best guy friend(for about 9 years) has been paying a lot of attention to me this school year. He always gives me high fives and occasionally pokes and hugs me, and we always talk to each other. My friends say that we would look good together. I kind of like him, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. What should I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (17 May 2007):
 How do I know he will let her know if he wants to take the relationship to the next level? He has been her friend for 9 long years, if she is dropping him hints, and giving him looks, and acts a bit more intrested in dating him, then he will pick up on this, he knows her after all.
Most guys go after what they want, and if you give them an open door they will take it more often than not. It may be that he does not want to ruin a great relationship with a romance if an until he is sure that it is worth the risk, like he has decided he is in love with her.
Friendship is the best foundation for a romance, and being his friend could mean that she is closer than she realizes to being his future wife....why mess that up with revealing deeper feelings until you are both ready to take the leap together? Once you do, the friendship is forever changed and may be lost if the romance does not work out. So you have to ask is it because I am dependent and comfortable, or is it more, am I in love? If so, then by all means take that leap.
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reader, Angelgirl1991  +, writes (15 May 2007):
 Hi hunny
You need to talk to him about this. He may be feeling exactly the same. It may not turn out the way you plan but if you don't ask you will never know will you. If he isn't interested in you in that way then it won't matter because it sounds like your friendship is a strong one so you'll both be able to work through it quickly.
Good luck and let me know what happens
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): Please talk to him, I've been the guy in that position before and it never happened because both of us were worries about that!My biggest regret!
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reader, mitch +, writes (13 May 2007):
so rhythmandblues2, why should she not let him know when you say he will her know? how do you know that? he might be sitting there thinking 'i really like her but don't want to risk her not liking me and ruin the friendship'. i say tell him, but make sure you do it properly - ie sit him down and talk to him, dont do it in a crowded corridor where he can just walk away and not respond. best of luck.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (13 May 2007):
I think it is more important to remain his friend, if he wants something more, he will let YOU know. If you tell him first, it will most likely put a strain on your friendship.....you both are very young, plenty of time for romance, take things one day at at time, and before you know it he may become someone more like a boyfriend, and remember having sex does not a relationship make, but often puts a break in your self esteem and his respect for you.
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reader, Natalie...x +, writes (13 May 2007):
 Definitely talk to him about it. I've been in this situation before. It doesn't ruin your friendship at all, it makes it stronger if anything. Good luck =)
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