I kissed her too soon, and she still has feelings for her ex

A male age 26-29, anonymous writes:

hello, im soooo confused right now. ive known this girl for years, and ive worked with her the past 8months or so and i really devloped a liking for her, so i waited for her to come out of her current relationship and i made my move slow which we both agreed we wanted to do. we said to take it really slow because its only been a week since she left a very destructive relationship with a major asshole who doesnt treat her right at all according to her friends, and she was madly in love with him too. so i agreed slow wa the best thing and 3 days into our "thing" and by that i mean we were holding each other and touching nicely and i gave her massages and she loved them. her friends said they havent seen her this happy in a loooong time. and i thought all was falling into place for us. the 3rd day like i was saying was when we were at work just the 2 of us and i brought her in close to me and held her, and i looked her in the eyes and leaned in and we kissed for a while and it felt amazing, then the kiss ended and we stood there holding each other little did i know she was thinking deep about her ex and it turns out she has feelings for him still. so i apologized for brining her feelings with him up and asked if i moved too soon for her and she said she really likes me but it was just too soon for her and i knew it but the moment felt right. so im confused and ive fallen for her and i cant lose her, but im gonna give her time to figure things out ad hopefully she comes around to me but i have the feeling she is going to go back that guy and fall into his trap again. what do i do? how much time do i give her? do i let her make the next move? or do i? help please :(

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