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writes:Hi,I recently posted about my girlfriend cheating on me, full details here - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/did-she-sleep-with-him.htmlI still have this feeling that she did have sex with him the two times that he told me about and i feel she would lie to me about it either out of wanting to stay with me because she loves me or because she doesnt want to hurt me any further or she doesnt want people to find out that she is THAT sort of woman who would have sex with someone just because i wouldnt tell her if things hurt me or if i was upset or whatever.I dont know if i can trust her still, i keep having dreams about suicide too cus i just want all this crap to be over, my job is getting me down as well and ive seriously had enough of my life now.I know that i would struggle to get another girfriend cus i gave up most of my mates so i could be with her cus she didnt like them or they didnt like her or whatever so i really dont know what to do anymore, i also have quite low self esteem from all this and the fact that my hair is thinning doesnt help either.The last two years have been pretty good between us, aside from the last 6 months when all this properly came out and i started asking questions.She is trying to make for what she did by making our relationship better by doing more stuff that i want, we have sex more often now too (she has never been comfortable with sex anyway) and she is trying to be more open and be a better girlfriend basicaly.So i really dont know what to do anymore, I know i love her and i want to be with her, but i cant get rid of this feeling that i know she was with someone else while me and her were having unprotected sex and she might have been doing the same thing with him?Any ideas?
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reader, oxxvickixxo +, writes (3 June 2008):
I got feelings for my ex a couple of months ago, i went and met up with him then i remembered why i split up with him( although he was a better bf than my current 1)if you dont feel you can go on with your current girlfriend there really isn't much point in staying with her just now as the longer you stay with her the harder it will be. i know people say forgive and forget but its not that easy if shes making a good effort to fix things i think you should make up your mind or atleast try a little break form her..
Good luck and keep your chin up!! =P
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reader, crazy984 +, writes (3 June 2008):
crazy984 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLately ive been having feelings for my ex, perhaps its just me wanting to get back at my girlfriend for what she did, i dunno, i guess i just want a relationship that isnt tainted.
I love her so much, i cant imagine being without her, but deep down i hate her for all of this, why do other people have faithful relationships and i dont.
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reader, oxxvickixxo +, writes (3 June 2008):
Hey this is more me giving you advice that someone gave me cos I read your question and realised i'm in almost the exact same boat.
Anyway.. one of my old friends just told me to go on a break with my boyfriend and get out more, like you i had also lost most of my friends so I tried to get in contact with them and asked if they wanted to go out one night. The majority of them did which was great, being out with them and even just talking to them about what had happened and listening to there advice worked for me kinda, it put things in perspective a bit more. I'm still seeing my boyfriend now but you really need to have your own friends and space aswell..
Hope that helps you,
Sorry if it doesn't!! =]
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