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I just can't come out with "what are we doing?" because we've never talked about it!

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Question - (25 July 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 27 July 2009)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

What should i do?

Ok so I no now that I’m bi, I have been with girls be4.

I started to fancy this girl for a wile but one night there was three of us in a bed after a night of drinking, I started to play with her arms and back. She didn’t stop me. Then she joined in. This is the start.

So its moved on from there, from arms, legs, chest . You get the idea. But it seems to be a “only when the lights go out thing” and I don’t want that I want to be with her properly. I’m feeling its me doing all the work as well, I thought am I taking advantage but she is the one who grabs my hand ( we never speak at this time ) and I woke up to her pulling my top off last night?!!? . . But when I kissed her . . Nothing no response!!! So I was thinking, what are we doing ?!?!

I don’t know if she fancy’s me. I don’t think she has been with a girl before, so that could be why she is not roaming to the more interesting parts of the body. Maybe she is lonely and feels ok with me, but I know that she has had the opportunity for sex from some guys she said she liked but she didn’t do anything about it, just hung out with me more.

I don’t think I can just come out with “what are we doing?” because we have never talked about it.

I’m going over there tomorrow. This is the only night that we haven’t been together in the past . .20 days? Something like that.

Can anyone understand why I’m so confused??

Please help!

I think I’m going to go mad!

P.S sorry its so hard to understand but its all messed in my head!. Please SOMEONE, ANYONE HELP!! Just reply if you need more details.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009):

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thankyou to the people who have commented, very helpfull!

Update!!

Saturday night- we drink, we go to bed, same bed.

silence. . but then a txt from a very funny friend. so we r kind of touching, but not really intimately and TALKING AND LAUGHING!!. I no at least this is a start! I started on her, but this time she was much quicker to get into it and more intimate. I think she might like me as I made her cum through two layers of clothing. Also after I started a little play fight with her and we had a cigarette. ( that felt good ’classic cig after sex’ ). so I think progress.

This was one fun night but it don’t help me! I want to tell her I love her. But we are both going to Uni in sep so is there a point? I want to spend all the time I can till we go to other ends of the country.

Also she just left mine and no hug goodbye( I think we have hugged once in like 5 months ). . .I am really worried she Is straight. All I wanna do is kiss her. But the thought of her rejection is to much. Of my face coming towards her and in her mind going “it’s a girl!!! NOOO, its fine in the dark”

She left like an hour ago, I miss her all ready. But were always texting.

What do you think ? Should I risk it all for love kiss her and hope?

Or just keep going see what happens? Which might mean wasting the short time we have left?

Please let me know

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009):

I think you should just take it easy with her as it may be that she fancies you and is just totally confused/maybe feels wrong about what she's doing. Just keep doing what you're doing, but try and take it a little bit further kind of thing - if she stops you then just drop it, but if she doesn't then take it slow but go for it! I hope things work out for you :-) xxxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009):

She wants you to be the one to roam first, If she wants you over, lets you touch her and dosnt stop you , she is just being shy. Someone has to roam first right? Trust me shes waiting for you.

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