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I just break down and cry sometimes, is this normal???

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Question - (30 October 2006) 7 Answers - (Newest, 1 November 2006)
A male , *airyTale writes:

Hey guys,

My gf broke up with me around 2 months ago, we've been together for almost 2 years. Im 22, shes 21 and we moved in together after just 2 months when we were stll together.

I loved her so much, i still do but she doesn't have feelings for me anymore and broke up with me.

I really miss her and constantly think of her, i've posted some question and looked for advices around here before and it helped me alot during these past 2 months.

I just wanted to know if anything is wrong with me right now...

Every now and then i would suddenly break down into tears for no reason and start missing her, this happens on alot of nights when i just feel lonely and miss her presence. I would usually study at night or practice my guitar techniques or just browse around the net at night, then all of a sudden once in a while i'd just break down and start crying and miss her. when this happens my heart just aches, the feeling when you realise the person you love most and care for most left you and doesnt care for you anymore would start comming in and my heart just aches because of it.

I don't know what to do, i've always tried being one of those stereotypical guys and hardly cry, but all of a sudden this is happening. Am i just a hopeless romantic? Is it normal for a guy to just break down and cry so suddenly???

I don't know anything anymore... I guess my mistake at the start was that i got too attached and emotional over my ex, but you just can't help it when your deeply in love with someone... All i know is that i always will love her...

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A female reader, Lemonpixie United States +, writes (1 November 2006):

Lemonpixie agony auntWell in light of your recent add on. I'd say when she calls dont answer. Try to go out a lot with friends and keep yourself entertained... you are no longer her boyfriend you still have to do all the boyfriend things with no fringe benefits... thats rather unfair! Keep yourself busy... dont mope around the house or computer... go out even if there is no one to go out with go on a hike or join a class at a community center... rent a movie do whatever to distract you from calling her or picking up the phone when she calls.

Hope it helps sweetie!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006):

crying is part of the healing process.

Not crying or showing no emotion is what is classified as not normal!

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A male reader, FairyTale +, writes (31 October 2006):

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Well, ever since we broke up i've been helping her move her things, i even paid for haf her apartment because she has low financial income. Ever since we broke up, every now and then she would ask me for money, and i would give in to her and give her some... it's been 2 months now since we're apart and this have been going on for the whole time. I don't know if she is using me or not, but i told her how i feel and asked her for another chance to be with her.

The thing is, she would never give me a proper answer, she would always use it against me instead. She'd say something like 'i want to get back with her but i can't even help her ... blah.. blah.. blah' then asks for money...

I really don't know what to do anymore...

I know i shouldn't be giving her money and should stop, but i just can't do it when she uses these tactics on me...

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A female reader, Terrie-Anne +, writes (31 October 2006):

It's good you;re amitting to crying over your ex,it show's you still care.It's ok for guy's to show their feelings because you hide them so easily.Get in touch with this girl and tell her you're feelings she's got to know how she's hurting you'stay strong

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A female reader, Lemonpixie United States +, writes (30 October 2006):

Lemonpixie agony auntIts ok hun. It happens to all of us... nothing hurts more than loving someone who just doesnt love us anymore... I know this is cliche but give it time. I'm only 22, but I have loved and lost, and it hurt like hell but I'm ok now. I thought I would never be over the pain and for awhile it would just creep up on me and I'd sulk and get really depressed. Eventually it happened less and less until poof I was ok. I'm now in another relationship with someone I feel an even deeper connection to. If it doesnt work out I know i'll have to go through it again but remember she is hurting too... whether or not you think so, I myself have fallen out of love before and it's not that i wanted to it just happened... The best thing you can do is learn from the relationship, what worked and didnt work and go from there.

Good luck

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006):

Aaaaaahh, I am sooo sorry to hear that you a struggeling so much. It is crap isn't it! Your diagnosis: a broken heart. This happens to the best of us. I wish there was a miracle cure, but time is the only thing that will help. Yes, you will always love her and you should. There is nothing wrong with that - she had a special place in your life and has helped to shape you in to the person you are today. You would have learned many valueble lessons from this relationship that will help you in the future. Take one day at a time, try and force yourself to get out and do things that you enjoy even if it is just one thing a day to start off with. If it will help, write to dearcupid and we will try and give you the support you need. Lots of love A xx

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A female reader, coolclassic7 +, writes (30 October 2006):

You need to ask her why? Don't say anything and just listen. Be honest with her tell her exactly how you feel, then maybe send flowers and wait. gool luck

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