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writes:Hello, I recently just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. The reason we broke up was because he constantly lied. He even lied about little stupid things. We really love each other so much but all that lying really tore us apart. I hope he betters himself and comes back because that's what I am hoping for. What do you guys think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): It's a difficult choice but I can speak from experience! I also have a boyfriend of 3 years and he also struggles with lies. What I can tell you for sure is that it will be very difficult for you to trust him again but you need to try and regain that trust at least. I tried it and it's difficult but worthwhile. Now and again he tells a white lie but to me it's a big deal, all I do then is confront him and tell him how much his lying is hurting me. Also push yourself to start clean and put the past away. If it helps, keep a close eye on him but tell him that you don’t want to make him feel angry, that whatever you do from now on is just so that you can regain the trust you need. Don’t go overboard though. If he usually lies about other girl etc, ask him to show you his profiles on skype, facebook, my space etc so that you van feel assured. Just remember don’t push him in to a corner or keep him from doing fun things, that will only make the lying worse.
I hope you can manage and that you regain the trust!!!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 Whats the question?
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (3 December 2010):
If he does come back, will you really be able to trust him again? I mean, will you believe that he got better? Or will you doubt him and think that he might have gotten better at lying? That's the problem with lying and cheating. So hard to build trust back. And even when they start being honest, the doubt and fighting from wondering if they really are could tear it apart again. I think you should just find someone new. Start a clean slate.
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