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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:i've been with my person a while, and usually i'm happy, but sometimes, like right now, for no reason in particular, i feel trapped. i feel like i'm being compromised, that i could be settling that there might be more out there and I'm scared about what I'm doing with my (love) life. Sometimes I feel like I just want to grow into myself and not have anyone else there to watch it. He's my first real long term boyfriend, more than 5 years, and part of me likes the security of having someone know me completely and fully and appreciate and accept my flaws, but the other side wonders if I should be feeling more..fulfilled, but then I don't know if the grass really is greener on the other side. i'm scared of losing the best thing in my life. this feeling comes in at different periods in my life, but it is recurrent, and that makes me nervous. is it a sign that it's not right, or do i just not know any better cause i just don't know that there's nothing better out there? I wouldn't mind just taking a break but I don't think he would go for it, he's all or nothing. please don't tell me he deserves better than me, I already feel insanely guilty that this nagging feeling won't let me live in peace with this man that I do have strong feelings for but don't know if it's love because i just plain feel like i don't know what love is.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (15 December 2010):
try to write down on a piece of paper
the advantages of being with your man
and the disadvantages of being with him
think slowly and ask some experienced elder women whom you trust..
finally i say if you love him and he loves you back
and the basic and important needs are fullfilled
keep with him
no one has a 100% percent perfect marriage or relationship
Good Luck
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