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writes: [Moderator note: I combined two questions into one for space and continuity.]1: i hate anal sex it hurts me really bad but my boyfriend loves to give it to me. lastnight we ued lube but still i was in alot of pain. i want to mke him happy so i just let him do it. but is there a way that can make it hurt less and me enjoy myself also?and2: ive been having this clear liquid coming from my vagina and i`m not sure what it is. its kinda thick and when i told my doctor about it she said nothing was wrong but i`m afraid it is. do you have any idea what it could be? and me and my boyfriend are having sex so is that ok? even tho this stuff is coming out of me??
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): you have to be comfortable with anal sex.. since you want to do it to please him.. you have to help him be better at it.
first when your alone... experiment, see what you like. Don't just go right in.. but feel around while you stimulate your clit, watch a movie, have some wine and relax. This is about you and your choice.. so since you have chosen to do so.. get comfortable with the idea
you are feeling the pain because the anis is a muscle and when we feel uncomfortable or scared what do we do? we tense up.. thats right, the butt puckers right up.. and you are doing just that.. even though you probably don't know it.
So relaxation is the key... now that you are relaxed you can begin to explore your body without him there, without pressure and enjoy all the exploring and maybe get a good O in the afternoon. try using your vibrator, and fingers (don't forget the lube). get the area used to being touched and carressed. once you are ok with this, then when your ready with him guide him to how you want it done. also I found that while im having sex i use the vibrator while hes there... it helps me relax and come to climax with him. (again)..lol
remember that lube is the other key, I recomend astroglide.. its water based and does not dry up like ky jelly.
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reader, AskSam  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 1) if your uncomfortable with it, tell him and find something else, its clear you dont like it, so try something else that is romantic.
2) what your expieriencing is female ejaculation when you have sex, or its just normal for you, many women find that they have more lubrication than others, there is nothing wrong with that, but if its still a concern consult your doctor.
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