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writes:i am 14 and i have really low self esteem issues somtimes i cant even look in the mirror because i think i am really ugly or my hair is a mess.my freinds say i am pretty one said i am one of the most prettiest girls in the year.but i feel i am weird none of my freinds have self esteem issues and are proud the way they are why cant i be like that is there somthing wrong with me? how can i feel better about myself?
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reader, softwings  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 The best thing you can do is talk to someone about how you are feeling. You just rant and rave to someone you trust about what is bothering you at the time.
Another thing you could do is surround yourself with things you really like and just enjoy yourself. I used to think i was ugly and had depression before i got engaged. Most girls don't realize how great and wonderful they are until some guy comes along and tells them so. To be honest you can't accept that.
Did you never notice that some big girls have the most obnoxious attitude? Don't you tend to forget how they look and respect them just a little bit more because of the fact that they aren't afraid to express themselves even tho they look like they do? That's because most of them have accepted how they are and they realize that they really are beautiful people and don't have to except society's standards.
Ever see those people on the news or in plays or in hospitals dying from a disease and they seem so confident and strong despite the fact that they are going to die? People forget that they are dying and believe they are strong and beautiful, and everyone around them are amazed and wonder why they can't do that themselves.
If other people can tell you you are pretty then you must be! You have to just accept the fact that you are special, and you don't have to look like most stupid girls that dress like sluts for attention. That just proves their insecurity.
Trust in yourself and believe you are beautiful. If you tell yourself this enough (even if you don't think it's true at the moment) you will start believing it.
You don't have to be anyone else. Love you for you, and you will live so much longer and happier.
You have years ahead of you to establish that you are the best person you can be. And looks are not the most important thing any way. Being a kind and loving person, and feeling happy are.
Your friends probably go through the same feelings you do every once in a while, but they know that it's not the truth. No one can tell someone else they are ugly. No one in this world is truly ugly. People need to have their own standards. All you have to do is find your own. And follow it to the very end.
You go ahead and look at the mirror every chance you get and say "I look damn good, and no one can say other wise!"
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