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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm a 30 year old girl, married for one year now. I have a strange problem of not having any good friends. When I was in school I used to have few very good friends with whom I used to hang out often. Later in Uni I never had any close friends whom I was completely close to, except my bf, now husband. Its not that I don't talk to people or something. I'm a friendly and a nice person who is always polite to everyone around me. People see me as a very sweet natured person. However, I don't have a single friend who is good enough to hang out! I have no one to invite if there is a party at home, no one to go shopping with, no one with whom I can share my thought (I'm talking of female friends). Sometimes I feel I'm such a lonely person. My husband is the one who ponited out that I don't have a single good friend. He says I cut them off too soon and does not do enough to develop it in to a friendship. It seems that I send out negative signals to People, making them associate me only on a formal level. Are there any suggestions to overcome this? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 A Good way to meet new friends is through clubs, churches, etc: that way your meeting hopefully true friends in the long term.
If you do come across as being aloof try to work on that, go out your way to be nice to people, really get to know them, their life, their occupation, everything about another person can be so interesting if you just take the time to find out about them.
I think you have grown accustomed to this and that is a bad thing because you don't want to go through your whole life without having any true friends.
Try a different approach to people when you eventually get to meet and know them, take an interest in their life, them as a person, and you will find this works because people love to talk about themselves and that is a good starting point.
Join some clubs even if it is keep fit or something like that to begin with and open up your world to the possibility of having loads of friends, you need to go find them they wont come to you.
Gina
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