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writes:I just want to know if anybody can make sense of this and why I felt that feeling after over a year of being broken up and having not seen him in that time!I dated this guy over a year ago, we dated for a few months, not long. But he was the first guy I let myself get close to and trust, he was the first guy I loved and the first guy to break my heart. It wasn't a nice ending to our relationship, it was a horrible and very hurtful end, that we didn't end on good terms and there was never closure and we haven't spoken or seen each other since. Regardless of that, I know I'll always have feelings for him and of course there's times when I miss him and think about him, it's only natural since he was the first guy I loved and I don't know when that'll go. The good thing is, I rarely think of him much it was only for the first 4 months after it ended. But otherwise, since I rarely have done, in fact i've been really happy, I've dated quite a few guys since we ended it and met so many, almost too many so I haven't not let myself move on. I just accepted it and got on with my life, i had no other choice. Point is, last night was the first night I spoke to him and saw him since a over a year ago when it ended. I was in this bar and saw him and I thought one of us should say hi, what happened was over a year ago so it's in the past now! I said hi and we talked briefly, surprisingly he was really friendly with me and it was nice because you wouldn't think that it ever ended the way it did and that we weren't on good terms.But I noticed when we were talking, in that moment I felt an aching feeling inside of me when he was talking and I while I was looking at him. Then when we went off back to our friends, when I sat down I felt a moment of sadness, very briefly overcome me.Can anybody make sense why I felt like that and what do you think it means? I can't make sense of it, why would I have felt like that, especially after a year, it's just very unexpected!
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reader, babyzbird  +, writes (12 January 2014):
 I think it is normal that you felt that way. However I wouldn't get back together with him. He's an EX for a reason.
Try to find peace in the fact you can be on polite terms to each other and move on. You'll be much happier if you do.
Good Luck!
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