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writes:I have a thing for my cousin's daughter. We are both single and we are far from children. She is very bright and interesting, and there is a physical appeal. We spoke recently at a party and she actually told my mother in a telephone conversation how much she enjoyed spending time with me.Would it be wrong if we "got together"? I think we are both intrigued about this forbidden fruit.
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reader, jrquixote +, writes (11 July 2009):
jrquixote is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGreat responses thus far. I am 40 years old and my cousin's daughter is 36 years old. Both single, there will be no child bearing. This is not purely sexual but sharing time together, and who knows what else. To me this is not a tawdry situation but others may disagree.
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reader, Lovely Sweet Laura  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 She would be considered your second cousin if she is your cousin's daughter so you are related. I guess it would come down to how everyone involved felt about the situation. I actually know someone who had a relationship with there first cousin for awhile but he ended it after sometime because he wanted to have children but didn't want to risk doing so and there being issues with the child's development etc....I believe it was a very difficult decision for him at the time because he had formed a close emotional bond to her. I you never have intentions of having children and everyone involved is not put off by the idea then I don't see to much harm in it. If you are both comfortable with the fact that you are related than that would be your biggest concern. I understand that some people may find this to be very wrong but in the past it was uncommon at all for cousins to marry. Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): hi there,
im going to be honest with you, people and your family members may see you and your cousins daughter 'gettingtogether' very wrong, but the main thing is, life is too short and you can't help who you fall in love with, i think if you havent already spoke to your cousins daughter about it then you should talk to her tell her how you feel, and if she feels the same way take things further. x
hope that helped in some way, just remember everyone sees things differently to others x
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reader, holikdad +, writes (10 July 2009):
What you really need to take into account here is how will your family react if you have a relationship with her?
And do you know if she really is interested in you in that way? Just because she told your Mom that she likes spending time with you doesn't mean she's ready to start a relationship.
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