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I have a problem with my pubic hair. It physically hurts my partner! Help!

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Question - (6 February 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 22 March 2008)
A female Australia age 36-40, *elp-please writes:


I hope you can help me I'm stressing out.

My pubic hair is so coarse and wirey. I've tried shaving, trimming with scissors etc.. but it always feels so hard and prickly. My partner says it hurts him when we have sex.

Is there anything I can do (other than waxing it all off) to make it softer or for it to stop hurting him.

It literally feels like bits of wire sticking out of me.

Please help


desperate female

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008):

hey girl,

i went through a similar situation. Used to wax or pluck(epilator) myself down there but wen the hair started growing back, my guy complained of getting scratched wen he went down on me. He suggested i skip waxing/epilating for a while. I left my pubes untouched for almost 3 months! He actually loved it (said it makes me look sexier, too) and now i just trim (not too close) once in a while and condition.

See what helps you... you could try a different combination. I heard somewhere that pubic hair removal actually increases a woman's risk to yeast infection!! That sounds nasty :(

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008):

This probably sounds totally crazy, but have you tried a shampoo or conditioner down there? It doesnt work as well as it does on your hair on your head (I'm not sure why) but for at least about 2 hours it makes it so much softer.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008):

Waxing isn't the torture people think it is. it hurts for a few seconds.. before you go in for a wax you can trim your hair so it hurts less when its pulled out.

condiioner works... also while having sex use lube on the mound...there will be less friction...

also if just before you have sex you cream your hair off using nair or something... it works and leaves the area soft atleast for a day or two until it starts growing back.. then wash off the cream in the shower using a moisturizing body wash/soap. then use baby oil on the skin while it is still damp.. when everything dries use a good moisturizer. I know it is a pain to go through everytime you have sex but everyone's hair growth is different... it might take longer for it to get prickly again... see what works for you!

but waxing is the best way.

Hope that helped!

hope it helped

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008):

TO be honest hun, leaving them alone for a while so they get a bit longer usually makes theem softer, they curl more and are less pok-ey then! othrn tahn that, waxing is an option but in the time they are growing back to the length where you can wax them again, they will be extra prickley.

But ya, I always condition my pubs, cuz it makes them so much nicer, even tho mine are pretty thin!

Hope this helps!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008):

Waxing would certainly help because the hair will grow back less / more sparsely but I would recommend you try putting conditioner on your pubic hair. I know this sounds daft and a little expensive when you use it for the hair on your head but I know one other person who had 'prickly pubes' and she did this to soften them up. You could also try some softening serum, wax etc.

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