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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and i fancy the pants off him. I'm just not interesed in having sex and it's starting to become a strain on our relationship.I thought it might be because of the pill which ive been on about a year now, but how would you know that was the reason? I love him with all my heart, he really is beautifull and sexy and i can't stop kissing him. I'm addicted to kissing him, I cant stand being away from him and hes my best friend in the whole world. We hardly ever argue, we bicker and just talk problems through. Which is why its getting really frustrating for both of us that I'm just not interested in having sex. Sometimes i do it just to please him, other times i make excuses. He's very loving and giving in the bedroom but i know its starting to get to him.Someone help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): I would imagine that the pill will have side effects like any other type of pill, this could be a result that. There should be an information leaflet with the pills (usually) which will give you a list of possible side effects.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): The pill can have an effect on your libido. Don't go off the pill, however, simply go back to your doctor and tell him/her what is going on with you and they will prescribe a "different" pill which may work better for you.
It is your responsibility to follow up and let the doc know how things are working for you. There is a pill out there for you that will work just fine for you without the side effect of losing your libido.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Its okay. Relax. You are normal. People mature sexually at different times. When I was 16, I dated a hot 21 year old ballet dancer for almost 2 years. She wanted sex all of the time, but although she was a blonde bombshell that could bend herself into positions most guys would kill for, I wasn't ready. All I wanted to do was kiss her and I loved the excitement that brought. She would try going down on me, pulling my penis out and stroking it, you name it. I just wasn't ready. That strained our relationship until it eventually snapped.Two years after we broke up, it just kicked in one day. I was dating a girl next door who was really cute, but not nearly as cute as the ballet dancer and the sex was great. A year later I met up with the hot ballet dancer in a night club and we hooked up that night. Sex was better with the cute brunette than the hot ballet dancer.Most guys prefer Maryanne over Ginger (Gilligan's Island reference), so don't let the cute guy determine if you want him sexually. Maybe it's his mind (or lack of mind) you can't get past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Some people aren't just into it - simple as that!Heck, some people are even asexual.Everyone's different, and so you're the way you are. There's nothing wrong with you at all!I'm sure your boyfriend can accept this, if he can't then its a big shame.
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