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writes: Dear CupidI have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about three and a half years. It was a rocky start, he has three children from a previous marriage. He appeared to be crazy about me in the beginning. I got pregnant and he changed. We have an almost two year old child now.He feels it's OK for him to go straight to the pub after work every day and have 4 pints and then the weekend comes and he meets with his children for a few hours on a Saturday and it's pub again. He is verbally abusive towards me and I feel he picks fight on purpose. He is a totally different man to the one I met before I got pregnant. He is never affectionate, never takes our son anywhere he appears uninterested in me. Maybe that's it, he is not interested and he wants his friends and pub more. I can't live like this. It's up and down all the time and it's not fair on our son to be living like this either. We broke up last year and got back he said things would change but they have not. I'm starting to question myself and I don't want to fall into a trap like that because all I am trying to do is have a nice life with him and my son. He just is not working with us.Please advise me as soon as possible.Thank you
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reader, Dear Kelly +, writes (19 June 2005):
Hi,...I think you have answered your own question and said it all there.....I think you have already made up your mind what is best for you, and your obv not Happy living like this, nor would anyone be,.....you say his got other children too from prevuios, his wife probablly felt the same as you and escaped,...I don't think you can change him, it's already been prooved from the last time you split up and he said he would change but has'nt!.Do you want to carry on with your life being miserable and unhappy as you feel and sound now?.....go with your heart and do what you think is best for you and your son, and if that means a break up, and him seeing his son at weekends, then perhaps that would be better all round. In time you will meet someone else, hopefully someone that treats you with respect,and puts you first, which is what you deserve.goodluck
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reader, pops +, writes (18 June 2005):
Get professional help. I suspect that you also changed. And, lets not forget that having a baby in the house also changes things. He's trying to make sure there are no more babies for him to support. pops
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