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writes:I'am a 24 year old with one kid and a wife but the thing is my wife dont deserves me but i love her and want to give her the world. Shes never has to work and i do my best to get it if i dont have it but i never say no.she all ways mad at me and i give her my all but my all is never enough what sould i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, bfis108137  +, writes (10 January 2011):
To passionatelynumb, boyfriend girlfriend relationships cannot be compared to marriages. I am sure your mother and father were perfect for each other until they got married. My marriage is in trouble but I kind of agree with the long answer above. I blow up at my wife although not intentionally when she gets mad at me and while it does make things really bad, I can honestly say she thinks twice before starting up with me. We have less arguments. I think honestly Women need to give their husbands the benefit of the doubt and not complain about every little thing or at least to complain just to complain for a few minutes and then drop it. I mean we get it. You are upset at X thing, and we are sorry but there is nothing that can be done. We aren't going to say it's never going to happen again because after all we are human and I promise you, IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN whatever it was.
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reader, LDK1864 +, writes (25 November 2008):
Don't play her "game" I tried that and regret it completely, I don't really have an answer but I dont thats it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): I agree with sappygirl... I'm 23 and married same as you. My wife is crazy and gets mad at everything, I mean I can't make 1 mistake without her going off. But I think i'm sort of like you, easy going and try my best to please her. But after a whole year of that bullshit I looked for help and one of my cousins gave me some good advice.
Seems you and I aren't alone in the world of marriage and bitches, but one thing you have to do which I found out the long and painful way. When she bitches at you for stupid stuff that makes no sense... try to talk her out of it, and when i say "try" give it a good 10 mins of trying your best to calm her down. After this method then explode on her, don't punch her in the face or nothing, just yell back. If she threatens you do it back, curses you out do it back, threatens you she will be leaving... help her ass pack! you get tha picture, just don't back down no matter what.
Simple method of tasting her own medicine. Sure it is very goddamn childish, but you still love her right? Still want to be with her right? Well then my son, you gotta play tha game. See what this method accomplishes is balance, you need to have balance of good/evil in a relationship. In doing things this way, you'll see if she really loves you or not because if you go off at her and she stays to "works things out" things will gradually get better trust me, I am a victim of physical abuse, not that any punches from my scrawny little wife could hurt me but still. if i can recover from a raging wife you can recover from this.
When you bring the arguments to her level, she WILL Begin to mellow out and your life will get better by the day. If you are truely good to her like you say THEN THIS STRADEGY WILL WORK TRUST ME!!!! If she has the balls to leave you then thank god the bitch is gone... but she is highly unlikely to leave because you love and treat her so good. The only time you will ever yell and say mean things to her, is when she does it to you... and thats the only way stupid bitches learn bro... no offense to the girls out there that got there heads on right cuz i have met a few. thats how I've gotten myself out of YOUR situation and me and my honey are doing just great now ^^
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sorry bout writing so much, your story just hit me hard and i had many flashbacks while writing this... hehe payce man
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (26 September 2008):
 My Mom was always frustrated with my dad. It did not matter that he gave her everything. He was a great provider, a great father, and a faithful husband. He worked hard for 27 years to prove how much he loved her. She ended up divorcing him. She got a house paid for and my dad was left with $300,000 in debt. She almost got him for $1000 a month in alimony too, but out of mercy she let that go. My dad was devastated. He felt like a failure. It may have been becuase she got married too early, or that they just weren't compatable. My mom is a great mother and a good person. She was just, for some reason or another, miserable with my dad. She now has a great relationship with her current boyfriend. They are almost perfect for each other. The bottom line is that your wife seems to take you for granted. Don't let her do to you what my mom did to my dad. If you continue to bend over backwards for her without requiring love and respect in return, she will eventually move on when she's through with you.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (26 September 2008):
 You need to tell her no.
Then she will respect you. Sometimes when we love someone so much we think if we keep giving , they will love us the way we deserve, but the truth is ,they walk all over us.
So stand up..be a man. Don't let her walk all over you. Who cares if she get mad sometimes.
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