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writes:Okay so o really like this guy but there.is a problem. So every time he says he wants to talk I start getting very.nauseous and shaky. But for several things we haven't had time to talk. Before we do I want advice on how to get over this feeling. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): I was like this when I first met my husband, but luckily for me he was the same way around me! What I did to get over it was just try to pretend he was someone else for the moment (someone I didn't have a crush on, like a different coworker), or I would avoid looking him directly in the eyes while talking to him. I would still look at him, I would just focus on his forehead, nose, or mouth instead, (weird as it sounds). As time went on, I was able to look in his eyes more without feeling nervous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): Omg, I have that too!
My advice (what worked for me) is to practice out roughly what you're going to say and be prepared for all types of responses he might give.
There's not doubt that he might give a response you are not prepared for but if that's the case, just go with the flow.
I'm not asking you to memorize what you're going to say, because that would make you stutter more (well in my case it did) and seem unnatural, but it's best to have at least some idea of what you're going to say before you approach him the first few times.
And also before going up to him, take few deep breaths.
Good luck, hope this helps somewhat. :)
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reader, iAmHereToHelpYou  + ♥, writes (4 February 2012):
 The best way to conquer this is to talk to him. No other way to do it. If you don't talk to him, you won't get used to him and you'll continue with this feeling.I get nervous when talking to a guy I know - it's not because I like him as anything more than a friend, but I still get nervous and I'm not sure why. Now though, because I've talked to him a fair bit recently, I don't get as nervous.I've noticed that the more you think about it, the more nervous/nauseous/shaky you get. Go with the flow and relax.
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