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writes:Hi i just found out that my boyfriend, that i been in love with for the 3years had a child 5 months ago with another women! I dont know what to do, and to make matters worse i was pregnant two months ago and he told me to have a abortion because he could not afford our baby, plus he doesn't know i know about his baby.
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reader, FemFetale  +, writes (14 October 2009):
I am a little concerned that you need further veiws on this matter. A MAN YOU were INTIMATELY AND PHYSICALLY involved with has show you no respect being involved with someone else was having unprotected sex and putting your life at risk. This is not a man you can trust or love as he has shown you none. Please do not waste your energy on this man, leave with your pride. He does not deserve you and you do not need the drama. This man is not into you and you do not need nor should you want him. The pain of having a termination because of his selfishness would be enough to give me strength to walk away.Find the strength and do the same.
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reader, Honey88 +, writes (14 October 2009):
1.)He Cheated on you
2.)He lied
This man went with another woman,whilst being in a relationship with you and did not tell you he had a child! I know you most probably think well technically he didn't lie to you because he simply didn't tell you,wrong,he withheld the truth from you thinking you would never find out! Which in my my books,that's classed as lying !
This man sounds like quite a good liar to be honest because the chances are that if you didn't have a clue he cheated on you with this other woman,then the other woman doesn't even know about you either!
He has no respect for you at all,and that fact he told you to have an abortion because he couldn't afford a child when he knew dam well he's paying towards the other child and didn't have the balls to tell you the truth,instead make you go through the emotional and physical pain of aborting while he sits back pretending everything's ok!
Darling,you deserve so much better than this man who has no morals! I suggest that you confront him about it. Don't be afraid too, you had every right to know seeing as you have been in a relationship with him for the past 3years!
Don't be his door mat! A relationship is supposed to be about trust, answer yourself that,if you really think you could truly ever trust this man again?!
Wish you all the best daring x
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (14 October 2009):
 I agree with Marie here...Get rid of this tool asap, and dont look back.
I am so sorry, your BF is a complete and utter asswipe who makes all of us me look bad.
Simply tell him that you know about his other baby, and make sure you file for child support from him once the baby is born, and make sure if you have to to make him submit to a paternity test, because the little worn will try denying your child, it is almost a given with what you told us about his plea to you for an abortion.
sweety, there are men out there in the world that wont treat you like crap. I know it may seem like there isnt right now, but I promise you there are.
Your BF unfortunately ios not one of them.
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Omg thats a horrible situation! I would break up asap...if he can hide having a baby from, who know what else he would hide! A relationship has to have love, honesty, loyalty and trust to work and obviously you cant trust him now! Good luck!
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