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writes: My husband is from a very different and quite a closed to outsiders kind of community. While his family has been totally off, some of his close friends (also v set in their ways even though they are younger) have tried to accept me a little but somehow I'm not their "Type". I feel excluded and hurt at the rejection though I know they are not doing it intentionally. How to overcome this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006):
Families can sometimes be clannish. Thats just the way it is....
But his friends dont like you too? There is some common thread there.. either they are all from the same isolated community... or it something about YOU.
Do you come off as too controling? Always correcting him or answering for him? Maybe too clingly? People may be getting some kind of vibe from you.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 It must be hard not to feel accepted by the family and friends of the one you love. I think you should firstly mention this to your husband. Maybe he'll have a subtle word with his family and ask them to be a bit more open with you, obviously without mentioning you've said anything about it.
Apart from that, you could just try and do more things with the, show them you're just like them in many ways and want to be accepted. This always takes time especially with people who are very closed in the nature.
If it doesn't work, just forget about it. See them when you have to but just worry about you and your husband. If they're not doing it intentionally, you can't change it and people like that rarely change anyway. Just carry on with your life, do the things you want to and be with them when you can.
Good luck and don't let this get you down.
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