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writes:I feel so numb lately, I spent the last 25 years of my life i am twenty, pleasing people, and living up to other peoples expectations. After i got out of my emotionally abusive relationship of five years, and finished my masters I FEEL worse..I don't think I'm worth anything and i desperately want to FEEL LOVE.I want someone to say it 24/7. i feel like i cant "FEEL" i just walk through the motions of things. I desperately want someone to breathe life into me seriously i feel so empty and lost... Has anyone felt this way.. i have these degrees my ex now comes back but i feel worse.. I feel so lonely, and scared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): I think many people feel this way at some point in their life - myself included. The abusive relationship is one thing but the stress and pressures of high level intellectual work is a whole other. I can sympathise with both. What I am trying at the moment to help myself work towards happiness is to allow myself to do things which make me happy - focus on myself. Try and spend more time with friends and family who you have fun with. Try new things. Take up a hobbby. Enjoy the little things in life. Look how amazing life can be - sunny days, flowers, have things grow and change. I especially try and have food adventure - cook yum new exciting things. You need to stop placing your value in this world on the basis of another loving you. I say this knowing how hard it is to do this. Are you sleeping well? Because sleep is a very important things to help people have balance in life. I don't know you but I think you you have value - look at all these people who care how you are feeling and are reaching out to respond to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Please know that you are not alone, I am a 31 year old male, also finishing a master's degree, and there are some days when I feel the same, and others that are not so bad at all. Remember that happiness does not reside in anyone else, it is actually with you right now, but some other evil part of you is covering that inner happiness like a black blanket- You can rip that blanket off though. My advice- Start working out at the gym and you might be impressed at the physical joy of exercise and the boost to your self-esteem you'll get.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (1 April 2011):
@OneofthegirlygirlsI think, with no offense, that you should take natural antidepressants such as Remotiv [it is St. John's wort extract].6 months ago, my girlfriend moved 300 miles away... and I haven't seen her ever since. We are now on a long distance relationship. I felt the same as "every single day sad, depressed and lonely", but thanks to St. John's wort I've been coping with my mild depression. I really hope it helps you too. WARNING: St. John's wot WON'T make you EUPHORIC, VERY HAPPY, nor even HAPPY. What it will do is get you to a neutral level in your mood, not sad, not happy, just enough to enable you to move on with your life. The changes can be observed the day after you take the first pill. It's natural, there are no side effects. I has helped me very much. Being in a neutral mood is millions of times better than being every day in a sad mood.Also, try repeating yourself hundreds of time a day"I am the happiest person in the world" . You won't see the changes immediately, but after a week of Remotiv and that phrase, you'll feel a lot better.I hope you find the man you need and want!
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