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writes:I found out that within the past few weeks or so, my boyfriend has skyped/video chatted with his ex girlfriend a few times.I'm not upset that he did, what I am upset about is the fact that he didn't tell me. He is usually open with me and never hides stuff which is why I'm concerned about him not telling me about this. He said he didn't want to tell me because it wasn't a big deal and he didn't want to ignore her because she kept wanting to video chat with him. Maybe I'm over reacting but now I have just been feeling like he's always hiding something. Is this something he should have told me or am I making a big deal out of nothing?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 December 2013):
 well in my relationship the NOT telling would be akin to LYING... it's a lie of omission.
BUT if you have ever OVER-reacted to something he's done without meaning to hurt you, then I can see why he did not tell you.
what is his rationale behind "not wanting to ignore her because she's been bugging him to video chat"
I would ask him "what if she was bugging you to have sex would you have given in to her then too?"
see his excuse is just that an excuse... if they are ex partners why is she so desperate to talk to him... I don't get the whole "be friends" with an ex.
I'm betting she is lonely at holiday time and using him to fill an emptiness she has being alone.
The problem for YOU is that he can't tell her no...
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reader, sallyanne +, writes (7 December 2013):
Hi there could be a few reasons why he didn't tell u. 1 could be that he really didn't want to hurt your feelings because it was really nothing but what u need to ask your self is do u love him enuf to trust him. How long has she been an ex to? because if its been a while then why is she getting in touch now. But until u suspect that there's something up there, then just follow your heart at the end of the day she s an ex for a reason x
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (7 December 2013):
 I can see where you're coming from. If it was me i would be the same. He should have told you, shouldn't be hiding things in a relationship.
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