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writes:Heys guys,i was wondering if you can give me an outside opinion... i have been with my partner for around 2 years now and to be honest we didnt start on the best grounds. in the first month of our relationship he has cheated on me with his ex girlfriend but since then he has made it up and we got our relationship back on track... with a lot of hard work... however now i feel like its getting back to how it used to be with him.... hes very distant and he always seems to be busy...he now has a business and a full time job which i know is tough but it seems that he just doesnt have that much time for me in his life anymore... i love him a lot and i know he loves me a lot too but i feel like i will always be second best in his life... i told him how i feel and he said that he is just starting his bussiness and needs to invest time in that as well.... he says he trys to fit me in every min he has spare but i feel that thats not enough... i also feel like if i want to speak to him i have to make myself avaliable when he is otherwise i dont get to speak to him...im not sure how to tackle this anymore... i really wnna be with him and he wants to be with me but i want more attension and love which im not getting at the moment....i kinda think this is selfish of me, wanting more when he is trying to give me more but i dont feel its enough and i dont know how to stop myself from wanting more of his time... can anyone give me some help on how to solve this???? plleasee its much appreciated
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reader, T-Marie +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Hey there, It is not selfish of you to want time with your partner and I know what it feels like thinking you are second best (my husband spends all his time on his cars)Unfortunately the start of a new business IS extremely time consuming. He will need to focus most of his time and efforts on it for a while. The fact he is starting a business is good though and he is probably thinking that this business will give you both some security and a stable income. Try not to be too hard on him, he may begin to feel that his efforts are going unappreciated.Just try to stay positive and remember that things will get better in time.The fact he seems distant will no doubt be down to the fact he has an awful lot on his mind.I hope this helps xxx T
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