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writes:Hmm, this is hard to write down because I can't quite get my head around it.The thing is the guy I am with has four children of his own and 2 of his late wifes where as I don't have any I am 18 years old and he is 17 years older than I am.His oldest child is 15 so only 3 years younger than me. The age doesn't bother him because I am very mature for my age the thing is he lost his wife a while back she sadly passed away and I don't know if he is just with me to ease the pain and so he wont be lonely anymore.I always think it should have been me and not her who passed away she was a beautiful loving mother and didn't deserve to die. I always feel like i'm stealing her life and that I don't deserve to be happy with him and that I should give him up and move on. I'm just in a right mess and don't know what to do about this please help.Any advice is appreciated.xx
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reader, SeanJohn  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Alarm!!! Too many problems here. Too many kids. Some around your age. Respect issues with kids.
The guy doesn't need a wife, he needs a baby sitter/house keeper/companion.
The age gap will make things difficult as you go along, the extra kids wont help things, your emotional guilt has already begun to damage you.
If it was me, I'd make the tough decision and move on with my life because the current situation is not favorable for a fledgling relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Well only you can answer that question,but let me say this.If you dont give it a try...you will always be wondering what if...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): never feel like your replaceing someone but rember this one if you find out that hes useing you hurt him again... love him till he showes he dont love you and the kids thing dont worry they like you but they will be cold to you at first im 20 and my man is 41 age dont matter if ytou love him then you love him...
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Nobody deserves to die. You're not stealing her life. Being a parent myself, if I were married, and I passed I would want my wife to find someone who's good to her and good to the children. If you love being with him, I think you should give it a go. You're not replacing their mom, or living her life, you guys are starting a new chapter in a book, and writing great memories together.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): I dont think you should give up on him just yet I think you should talk to him and see how he feels about everything......just dont worry to much....
truly yours,
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