A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi, after a year of dating, I broke up with my girlfriend a few months ago. In the first few weeks, she kept calling trying to get me to change my mind. Then, I guess, she gave up and I started missing her. So I started calling her. Now I call her a couple times a week and we have great talks but not about us or anything that happened. She'll email me all the time but never mentions trying to get back together with me like she used to.Thing is, I want her back. She takes all my calls, laughs a lot on the phone and emails me all the time. but she never brings us up and I'm afraid to bc I'm the one who left her. but why isn't she bringing it up when she did all the time the first few weeks??Could she still be interested in me??
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reader, tenfold  +, writes (1 June 2009):
Be a gentlemen. You want a girl to take the first step? Come on, Be the Man! Chances are she wants you back just waiting for you to ask it. Probably she is thinking the same way, "why he never mention anything about getting me back?".
Best of luck.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (1 June 2009):
 Hi,
Well the thing is ..when she was trying to get back together with you, you made it clear you did not want to do that....so she accepted that.
Now that the communication lines are back open, she is just keeping it platonic...she already knows that getting back together is a no no with you so I guess she isn't really bringing that back up again to be shot down.
What you can do is perhaps invite out to something casual, a buffet dinner or something fun like seafood, nothing makes you have a good time like cracking open crabs and lobsters and having it fly all over the place.
Share your feelings with her, be honest, tell her you miss her and ask her her opinion about maybe trying again. Be nice about it, let her know there is no pressure, you just miss her and want to know what she thinks.
Be prepared for the answer though. Sometimes it is a positive answer and sometimes not. Remember she was hurt by you so giving you another chance would be a big step for her. Be understanding of that.
Good Luck
Ana
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