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I don't want to vulnerable anymore...

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Question - (16 May 2013) 2 Answers - (Newest, 16 May 2013)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid

I got dumped thru phone from a 3 yr relationship a week back. Im picking the pieces and trying to move on.

3 years is a very long time for a relationship, then how come my ex bf moved on as soon as he dumped me? Didn't i impress him at all so it was easy for him to leave me. Or did he hate me so much that he got releived as soon as he dumped me?p />

Not to say he was emotionally very abusive, i should have stood for myself when he abused me, i let it happen since i don't want him to leave me. I tried so hard to leave him, but couldn't, at the end he dumped me. My self esteem could have been better if i have left him.

Anyway so could he move on so easily, why can/t i even though he abused me? I don't want to be this vulnerable emotionally anymore.

Please help me.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013):

you don't have to be vulnerable anymore. The past doesn't have to equal the future. You take the actions needed to get your spirits and moral up. Do what you have to do and build up your self esteem. My friend got a life coach which really helped her. Maybe consider doing the same. Good-luck.

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A female reader, largentsgirl89 United States +, writes (16 May 2013):

largentsgirl89 agony auntSeek some counseling to build up your self esteem, it sounds like you didn't have any during the relationship since you were willing to be abused by him just so he'd stick around. Build yourself up to the amazing person you are and go from there. The best part about being broken is that you can put yourself back together anyway you want.

Good luck and I really hope everything works out in your favor.

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