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writes:I'm 29 and my birthday is tomorrow.I know that it's inevitable, but I can't help it. I don't want to be 30... Most people probably wouldn't consider that to be young anymore. I need words of comfort, please, the thought of my youth being over overwhelms me.I'm not even sure that I want to be in my current job forever... I have a feeling that there's another career out there that would be perfect for me, but I'm scared that by the time I have the epiphany and figure out what it is, it will be too late.I need to get on with my life, but I just can't stop feeling sad about my age. I'm missing my youth already!I'm starting to wish I'd lived my life better. I wish I'd been nicer to people, wasted less time, worried less and enjoyed life more. I know there's no going back but I'm amazed at all the mistakes I've made. It scares and saddens me that I'll never be young again.Thanks for listening... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): I'm turning 30 next year, and when i was reading your letter wow that exactly how i feel, i wish i could go back to my mid 20's, i don't want to be called "old lady"
even when i wear sexy clothes i think to myself: "maybe i'm too old to wear this crap",
life sucks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): I agree with you entirely hun. I'm turning thirty this year and it fills me with dread. Age you can't stop or change, and the more you try the more pitiful it looks (eg, single uncle at family events dancing to trance). Let it roll over you, pick urself up after your hangover wears off and you'll realise it'll all be ok. As for work, I share your sentiment that there is something else out there, but what is it??? I'm looking to take a sabtical from my current job and go have a look, nothing to lose.
Long and short, i'm petrified abt work and three-oh. One i can do something about the other i can't. Deal with the solvable, let the inevitable happen. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone :)
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reader, anoms  +, writes (3 May 2009):
 when i hit 13 i thought i was old, when i hit 18 i thought i was really old, an now that im in my early 20s i dont feel so old anymore lol because i stopped worrying sinse most of my friends are much older then me and they seem to be having a ball. but i notice that the people that worry about that stuff look and act alot older then they are, an i have great friends in ther 40s and its like talking to a school mate of something, and im guessing its because they arent concerned with these issues and and they just be themselves, easy going an easy to talk to which is great. also through the years i have looked back constantly and thought "jesus i was so young back then..what was i worried about" so i guess its stopped me doing things i should have done in the past, the main issue being not asking girls out that were a year or two younger which is ridiculous now that i think about it, so stop stressing, otherwise in 10years your gona be saying you wish you were 30 again, so look at 30 as a new begining, gudluk
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): I know it's slim odds that you would actually get up and go do this. But I wanna suggest you go visit an retirement home of truly elderly and/or limited mobility people. Everybody's got a few relatives who could use a visit somewhere. A few hours visiting with people who are geniunely on the older portion of their lifetimes will do wonders to make you feel younger. It can really knock you back into perspective. It's not just so you can walk out going, "Ugh, their ages really suck! And I thought I had it bad!" There may be some of that feeling, but also it's more like to be reminded of all the different stages of life. Older peoples priorities tend to be so much different (and sometimes a lot more sensible) than younger peoples. And the families that visit people will often bring along their younger kids too. All ages are present.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (3 May 2009):
 Hey, im about to turn 30 in a few months too! Its just an age, a number, you have to ignore the number and go with how you feel. I really dont feel thirty at all but when i was 15 i felt 30! go figure!!
If you want to change anything in your life, do it anytime you like, great 30 with open arms and dont think of it as your youth over, think of it as surviving that youth and now doing the real stuff you always wanted to do!!
you'll be fine!
happy birthday sweat pea xx
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reader, Stars20 +, writes (3 May 2009):
 oh my god, you sound like you're about to die! Anyway, happy birthday. I am about to turn thirty too. Kicking and screaming we're bound to age. I would also love to turn back time and done things differently, or ask God to at least make me look as i'm twenty three years old. BUT!!!!looking back at all I had to accomplish to be where I'm at now, I rather be where I'm at now. You need to live in the present. In my case, I'm not going to even remember I'm turning thirty, I'm not going to act like I'm thirty, I'm just going to be ME! Don't make a big deal of your age, just thank God for letting you live another year, and pray for many more. I suggest you live young at heart, and you'll start to look and act like it. Heck!!! thirty is still young! and you don't need to tell anybody. Anybody who would ask me, I'll say twenty four, and I'll be twenty four for as long as I want to be. It's all in your head. Just take good care of your health, use beauty products,etc. I recommend Loreal skin genesis products. I use the serum and the results are great. I love it when I get that "wow" from people who asks me what's my age. So don't put much mind to it and keep on living. It's the law of life.
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